He doesn’t look at me anymore. What happened?

[DontBeAKaren]

Am I suddenly just ugly? This guy used to stare all the time like I was super beautiful but now it’s like I’m not even there. I have noticed him check out other women numerous times even if they have boyfriends and are very attractive. Why would he keep staring at them if they’re not available then? If I was still beautiful he’d at least steal glances. Did he just think I’d be easier to get because I’m not that beautiful physically or something? Why would guys stop staring at a girl he found so beautiful then?
is he possibly trying to neg me?

[HollyK21]

Sounds like he has a wandering eye in general, so he probably lost interest and is looking at other women, maybe talking to someone on a personal level behind the scenes. What I’m not getting tho is why are you letting some random guy put such a damper on your self esteem? Like he isn’t looking at you anymore and you’re panicking as if you’re just not cute anymore? Or at all if he isn’t looking? You’ve got to think higher of yourself than that.

[DontBeAKaren]

I know. I have no idea why I’m letting it get to me either. Yeah you’re right about the wandering eye. I saw him staring hard at some girls bubble butt (which I don’t have as I’m super slender) and I don't know I just never received that much attention from one guy before in a physical way. I lost a lot of weight over the last year so I’m more attractive in general.
Tbh I’m also uncomfortable with the situation. I might go at a different time than him now.

[DontBeAKaren]

What would make him lose interest and look at other women? He told me one day that I have pretty hair and I said thank you and now he’s avoiding me like the plague. People are saying it’s because I didn’t show interest back but I said thank you... wouldn’t a guy want to take things further with a very attractive girl who’s reciprocating?

[HollyK21]

I get it, we all go through those times of insecurity. Just have confidence in your looks and tbh it won’t even matter if he’s looking because you’ve done the work to get where you are and should be proud of the results regardless🙏 also, I just think some guys are just the type to like to see the sights, if that makes sense lol. I mean I’m sure there’s some eye tag happening between you two, especially for you to notice it to this extent. However he just may not be looking to even get into anything with you, just looking around and all that.

[DontBeAKaren]

Yeah. I just need to understand that I might not be good enough for him to romantically pursue. I might need plastic surgery or something to resolve my issue.

[Whateveryousay99]

Why would he continue staring at someone who doesn’t like him. Come back down to earth. This isn’t family guy or American dad. Most guys aren’t dumb and have respect for there selves. Why would I play the staring game if a girl isn’t showing signs she likes me. It makes no sense to waste my time when I can look at another girl who actually shows interest. He caught on to your little game and isn’t going to give you the attention you desperate fiend for.

[DontBeAKaren]

But... He stares at women with boyfriends though. Stares at girls not looking.

[Whateveryousay99]

It seems like he understands attention for female is literally there oxygen. An ugly women that has a career is equivalent to a dude that’s homeless and a hobo. Both of them are useless to society so you’re probably ugly to him. I know it felt good he was staring at you and stuff but like I said it’s some man out here who understands the game and we know attention is valuable for males and beauty for females. It's as simple as that.

[DontBeAKaren]

Got it. Finally someone is honest with me about how good I look. All makes sense now.

[DontBeAKaren]

Haha I’m not even ugly. If you saw what I looked like you wouldn’t think that but ok.
Im a tall redhead who’s a size 2 and has modeled. I’m not ugly or useless to society lmao.

[Whateveryousay99]

I never said you were ugly. I’m a very attractive guy. 5 gf’s so far. It’s the only reason I read females like a book at my age. I have at least 7 crushes currently at my job (seriously) but unlike most men I understand women like yourself will take attention from anyone that will give it to them and only have sex with the best of the best guys that give it to them. There’s a reason why the make up industry regardless of how bad the economy is doing never goes down. Also hair salons, nail salons, and clothing stores, etc. there's a reason why women are 80% of the consumer base and they spend a lot of their expendable income on making themselves look better. Your value is determined by your looks. The reason attention is so important to you is because for the female sexual strategy to work aka getting the best guy she can get, she needs to be able to validify that the work that she’s doing is going to lead to a good outcome and she does that by propping herself up and becoming as sexy as she can be and seeing how much attention she can get from men. I bet that makes you have a sense of happiness, it validates you, it probably appeases your ego and gives you a rough indicator of where you stand in the sexual marketplace. Now unfortunately for us men in 2022, since we live in a globalized sexual marketplace, women get attention from
men all over the fking world now so a girl that’s a 6 is going to feel like she’s a 8 or a 9. Attention is female currency and when that guy stop giving it to you, it really played with your mind. You want to know if you’re still attractive because a women worth is based on the way that she looks and she consistently needs validation and reaffirmation that she’s doing the work and she looks good and that is shown through a males attention. That’s why you’re wondering why that guy stopped giving it to you

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I’m not sure, I think it’s hard to know his reasoning. Did you change something about your appearance? Or maybe he’s not interested anymore?

[DontBeAKaren]

No I look just as good as before. I don't know he came and complimented me one day after staring at me for a while and I said thank you, then he walked away and completely started avoiding me after that.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Maybe he wished you would compliment him back or start a convo? I don’t know… People are hard to understand lol.

[DontBeAKaren]

But he was walking away. I don't know anymore :/
I’ll go say hi to him just casually.

[Daniela1982]

Why are you not beautiful anymore? Did you let yourself go? Go to the beauty shop, get some new clothes, lose weight, or whatever it takes to rekindle it. Either that or it's time to move on.

[DontBeAKaren]

Definitely not. Um no I pay a ton of attention to my looks. I’m 120 pounds at 5’9”, long red hair, wear very expensive and stylist clothes, etc. if anything I’m looking just as good as before.

[Daniela1982]

Well apparently someone doesn't think so. Guess he just got bored with you.

[DontBeAKaren]

People are saying it’s because I didn’t send him signals I was interested.
He’s complimented me on my appearance multiple times and sometimes I ignore him too.

[Anonymous]

Maybe just your ass or tits