He's trying to impress me yet wants me to make the first move? Why?

[Anonymous]

[caring__1]

He wants to impress you, as he wants you to see value in him. He wants you to make the first move, as he fears you'll reject him or be critical of him. Show him he'll be safe by showing appreciation for what he does, and at least give him signs you are receptive to him, even if it is just a special smile.

[Asker]

What about posting a map on valentines day with a red pin point on an island in the middle of the ocean. Is that where he was on valentines day or where he wants to visit?

[caring__1]

I remember that map. I feel you were reading into that. Never make assumptions and treat them as facts. If you want to know the truth, always ask the person who took action. Just say, "I'm confused about the Valentine's Day posting. Help me to understand it."

[Asker]

What would you think though if it was your love interest

[caring__1]

As I said, I'd seek clarification from my partner rather than create fantasies or nightmares in my head.

[Asker]

he also put 'a lion does not eat grass no matter how hungry it is' like wtf?

[caring__1]

He may be saying that something attractive to one may not be attractive to others.

[bolverk]

You have to ask that after #METOO?
#METOO shifted the rules, he has no idea if you'd accept an approach or bite his head off.
If you like him tell him in clear language, men are not mind readers, and most 'hints' will go pass unrecognised.

[Asker]

I basically did and he put 'a lion does not eat grass no matter how hungry it is' like wtf?

[bolverk]

Text? If he sent you that the he is trying to be obtuse as well as insulting, the full actual quote is
"A LION WILL NEVER EAT GRASS, NO MATTER HOW HUNGRY HE IS. BE LIKE A LION, NEVER LOWER YOUR STANDARDS BECAUSE SOMEONE EXPECTS THAT FROM YOU2
It is a translation/transliteration of a Tamil proverb.
It essentially is used to describe a situation in which no matter how dire of a situation you're in, you will not use your last resort.
And if I’m reading it right he is seeing you as the ‘last resort’.
I’d suggest you ignore him and move on.

[Asker]

When I text him though I said ' I'm available on these two days and if you can't do them then next week and let me know a day in advance then I asked him to let me know if he can do it as I'm working. He responded and said one of the days. Then I responded and said ok

And then he posted that on the day and time he was meant to arrive. So do you think he felt like I was giving him grass and not making him important so to speak?

[bolverk]

No from his use of that quote he is being confusing, on the one hand he is being positive in the texts the he sends that quote.
If you have not texted him since you got that quote just text back with a blunt 'what do you mean?' and see if he explains it, if he doesn't move on because he's definitely being insulting.

[Asker]

He put a wink face and smile emoji also with the lion quote. Does that change anything?

[bolverk]

Makes no sense, the quote and the wink face and smile emoji are diametrically opposed emotionally,

[Asker]

So maybe he wanted more from me. I used to be on his dick and readily available but now I am given him days I'm available

[Asker]

he's a contractor but also a love interest

[bolverk]

If you have already had relations with him it would seem that he is confused in himself, and in that case I cannot really be of any great help.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Same reason girls do it. Indirect flirting. He’s either shy and afraid of rejection or just passive by nature.

[spartan55]

He isn't sure you are interested.

[Wise4myage]

He sounds confused, but I bet he's shy.

[Asker]

He's so confident, almost arrogant and very abrupt. He isn't shy at all