Why do players fall for good/smart girls?

[Alyssa_11]

This is the pattern I see on TV shows lol so please NO ONE GET OFFENDED.

But yeah - why do they always players always fall for the good independent girl?

[MrOracle]

Let's start with the fact that the things they write in TV show plots rarely follow "the rule" - they are almost always "the exception to the rule" because it adds drama and allows for the outcome that many people WANT, rather than the outcome that most people actually GET in real life.

In real life, players rarely fall for ANYONE - though many are very good at portraying themselves as having fallen for a girl, because this behavior will win over many girls who would otherwise not be with a player. Of course, it's a LIE, but players rarely have any problem with lying to get what they want.

But exceptions DO exist, so let's talk about that. Players inherently prioritize their own wants and desires, and care far less about the desires or feelings of the women they get with. They're fully aware that the majority of those women only want to be with them because of their looks, wealth, or status, and if they lost those things, the women would mostly be gone the next day. For that reason and others, players as a rule have no respect for the women they sleep with - and let's be honest: the vast majority of the women they get with in the first place are the shallow, status-conscious types anyway, so they're not especially worthy of respect anyway.

A "good girl", however, is kind of a novelty to a player. She might feel attracted to him, but she's going to be much more resistant to having casual sex with him, unlike most of the women he gets with. She's going to force him to work a lot harder for it, even though he may be banging a bunch of other girls at the same time he's pursuing her, so he's going to have more respect for her than those other girls - though usually still not enough to make him care more about her than he does about himself. He's often going to assign more value to the good girl - BUT, he's also going to want her to do many of the "bad girl" things he's used to doing with the other women he sees - and when she does those things, it's going to "ruin her" in his eyes and he'll no longer value her as highly. This is a huge double-standard of course, but players don't care about such things - they care only about what they want TODAY. They're selfish - you can't be a player without being extremely selfish.

This is why some "good girls" often end up with a guy who is "only" a 7 or 8/10, even if she's a 9+ - good girls actually prioritize things like morals and values, and will place those above the guy's looks and wealth and status to some extent. Many others get caught up in the status race, and lose their "good girl" status forever.

[NathanDavis]

because that's the kind of plot that sells in many movies... lol

[Alyssa_11]

Lol very good point

[Aurora1010]

A player fell in love with me in the past but he still hurt me... players usually can't change their naturally bad mindset so easily.
I guess they see the innocence that's missing within them in those girls, but they don't always fall in love with them either, sometimes they just take advantage of them.

[DonkeyDan]

Do you mean target rather than fall for?
I'm not sure players have it in them to fall for anyone, they are way too calculating for that.

[rebeliouse]

ey as opposed to falling for the dumb stupid ones?

your question makes no sense

plus here the footballers marry the dumb ones!

[Alyssa_11]

Players don’t fall for other players

[rebeliouse]

@alyssa_11
omg I thought u meant football players lmfao

[Alyssa_11]

Oh lol

[Still-alive]

in my opinion they tend to target insecure girls who are easily manipulated into giving them what they want

[OddBeMe]

I think they’re the more desired. Independent means we can have a meaningful convo and I don’t have to babysit their ass.

[TonyMetal___86]

Maybe because these girls aren't colonized/occupied anymore and became independent 😂🤣

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Players are almost always mommas boys

[rabbitzzz]

Oh do they really. Isn't it the opposite.

[Tstrbrainer]

Challenge? Wife material.