I'm 20 years old and I've been seeing this guy now for about 2 months. (He's 24) During these 2 months he already expressed that he loves me. ( feels like a red flag)... So I wanted to see how true that was. So I asked him "what do you think of me has a person, because you know people genuinely like other based of qualities in their personality.." I expressed that I feel like I don't show my genuine personality enough. I'm intelligent, complex, emotional and even philosophical at times. Yet all we do together is party and have fun together. I feel like I'm only looked at has his Hot college girlfriend. He's extremely smart as well so I don't understand why he wouldn't want to answer the questions. He wrote a response back then deleted it. Now he's avoiding the question all together. Is it safe to assume that he doesn't really think much of me.
I asked him what he thought of my personality and he left me on OPEN?
Well I don't know this guy, he might be afraid to tell you his feelings. The way you said he told you he love I was feeling that you love him back. Not like in the romantic novels were woman is jumping for joy blood rushing to her cheek , you sounded cold so yes, he might try to avoid this conversation as much as possibly hoping you don't leave him. Best to have sit down together and talk , see if he includes you in his future like saying , We can live here , or where should we go after graduating. If he truly love you he's already going to start planning you in his life and saying different hints showing that it's going to be WE not ME type of relationship. Or maybe he is not ready or the one.
I don't blame him tho we were both tripping on shrooms and I felt this deep connection to him as well but we don't even know each other.. he still says it tho
I’m not Assuming I was only asking questions based of your first texts, I didn’t know it was after your first dated and you were on shrooms? Is shrooms weed?
He likes you but you are overwhelming him and scaring him off we dont like questions like that we dont know why we like who we like I literally have nothing in common with my wife we just share physical attraction and compatibility so who cares why we like each other 10 years and still happy and I dont know what I like about her we just have chemistry and accept differences but dont ask a man questions like that it makes you unpleasant to talk to
He can have fun with you and party but cannot keep a decent conversation with you? Something so simple he cannot answer. Seems like he is only using you for a good time and as arm candy. So sorry about that but you don't have to explain yourself to a guy that likes you as he will find out those things and like you. The question is; do you like the relationship as is? Or do you want more than surface based relationship? If he is as smart as you say he is then he knows what he is doing and this seems rather manipulative.
Well physically he is gorgeous and healthy, he's fun but he doesn't understand boundaries sometimes. I had that nagging feeling where it did feel manipulative. And im trying to figure out if its even worth stay around or should I run for the hills. He already messed up with me once. We both got super drunk and he tried to kiss anthore girl infront of me. of course I shut that down made a big scene but.. honestly I can't read him. or his intentions. its like he purposely trying to keep me confused.
@Cyberbrat becareful he sounds so manipulative... I don't know what else he would do to get your attention and get at you. It doesn't matter if he is hot, gorgeous or healthy... that mindset of his and the way he treats you isn't healthy
Persoanlly if thats me and you're trying to force that depth i probably just won't be bothered. After fully reading through your post it really comes off how my first impression would be of you digging for something. I am fine with deep talks, however if i feel it is motivated by something im not likely to engage for many reasons. Least of all through text. Sit down, talk and dont be all "im trying to get a read". Just discuss you want some feedback and talk normally. You would probably get suprising results.
You can't give a woman everything she asks for. I don't think I'd answer a similar question over text either. Somethings have to be answered directly, without words, without internet, without smartphones. Directly through inference, instinct, and touch.
I think men just don’t deep things like we do and he’s worried he might say something that will upset you. He obviously likes you otherwise he wouldn’t date you.
Your intelligent enough to answer that yourself, I think that when avoidence is something that shows their not being truthful. I'd move on, put your effort into someone who reciprecates.
its not like its charming me. He didn't have to tell me that, I feel like maybe he says it to keep me his girlfriend. because he knows ill have sex with him regardless lmao. but that doesn't mean I will stay his girl because his behavior can be toxic.
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