Why are guys so adamant about keeping the toilet seat up?

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My best friend and I are constantly bickering about the toilet seat. He always leaves it up, and it is so annoying. Sometimes at night when I am half asleep I don’t look and I fall in the toilet 😠, and when I tell him this he has the audacity to laugh at me! Why won’t he just put the seat down 😭? Also, on a side note, do you think he would get mad if I put a sticker on the toilet. 🥰 Thank you for reading this, and I hope you have a lovely day 🥰

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I never understand this, just because I was taught that the toilet LID stays on at all times when not in use. So every time it gets used, by males and females alike, the toilet is being adjusted to your specific needs. Also, not trying to give the ladies a hard time here, but WHY ON EARTH would anyone ever dream of sitting on a toilet without looking first? That’s like crossing the street without looking both ways, haha, it’s careless and reckless. That sticker you posted bugs me out too…. you want us to attempt to pee with the seat down? The seat that YOU, not us, will be sitting on? I don’t even try for that out of respect for others, lmao.

I don’t know, picking up and putting down seats and lids is so simple, I just don’t know why we don’t just all agree to close the lid every time, and the next person just makes whatever adjustment they need. It really shouldn’t be at all challenging for any of us, lmfao.

TonyV · Accepted Answer

Why do girls so adamant about keeping the seat down?

It's made to go both ways and your argument can easily be reversed. What if I'm half asleep and don't notice it's down? You're just being selfish and intitled to expect it to always be leaft in a convenient way for you, you sound like you aren't ready to live with a man, you need to grow up more. The seat is made to be up or down there is no one right position.

1 it's not problem if you can't open your eyes and look before you sit, what am I responsible for you not burning yourself in the shower too? Grow up.

2 any girl that is such a control freak that she wants to make rules about a toilet seat can get the fuck out my life, she's an overbearing control freak and I don't need that shit in my life, I don't need a helpless Dansel that can't put a seat down on her own.

Tinana · Accepted Answer

My biggest fear because of being in boarding school and sharing a toilets with a group of girls is seeing the toilet seat down. If it’s closed I’m not going to open it because something dangerous is inside I’ve been scarred tooo muchhh.

StrawberryShake · Accepted Answer

Girl grow up and look where you're sitting. It takes 1 second to flip the lid back down, and guess what? 1 second for him to flip it up when you leave it closed. My god pick your battles

willyppah · Answer

This is just a personal view of things it’s not about guys or girls.
In my opinion the seat should either be covered so the cover gets down on it or if there’s no cover better to keep it up, so that it is always clear and not splashed with anything from the sink or anything that can fall on it from anything around it.

Meanwhile, for me it’s a matter of cleanliness and protection from getting dirty especially when you are in hurry to use bathroom but you find something spilled on it or fell from ceiling on it…. That can lead you to better not to use the seat instead of wasting time to clean it before you sit. 🤷

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Why do women insist that it be down at all times? Why can't you just check to see if it's down before you go? Or, you could learn to pee standing up. It CAN be done! If I have to go take a shit, I don't just ASSUME the seat is down, I check, first, and it only takes a split second to do so! If it's not down, it only takes about 2 seconds to PUT IT down. Why is that so hard of a concept to deal with? You've spent your entire bathroom life sitting down to use the toilet! Why wouldn't you check first? We only spend about 1/3 of our life sitting on the toilet! The bulk of us don't just ASSUME that the seat it up anytime WE have to pee and you should be damn grateful for that!

jshm2 · Answer

They aren't, any more than girls are so adamant to have it down.

The "problem" is neither side wants to touch the ring someone elses ass has been on.

Easy solutions are that if you're in a mixed household, unless you're suffering diarrhea, always leave it opposite of what you found it.
Else always have it down, but always wipe it before and after you use the toilet.

Mangospacho · Answer

It’s for efficiency and it’s a time saving move. According to a recent scientific study from MIT, the average male only sits on the toilet 12.5% of the time and, thus, wastes time putting the toilet seat down every time. The study concluded that far more time is wasted putting the toilet seat up and very little time is wasted putting the toilet seat down. The study calculated that the average male wastes 2.4 years of their life putting the toilet seat up while the average female only wasted 0.2 years of their life putting the toilet seat down. In conclusion, leaving the toilet seat up every time is 20x more efficient than putting the toilet seat down.

Ekiewlen · Answer

Cuz it hurts to bed and lift it up. We need it up we only put it down. And when done being down I can lift it up on my way back up so I don’t have to unnesecarily bend twice. Pointless bending is the worst thing ever if you’re a guy. (Hence our groans when doing so it actually hurts our souls).

Anonymous · Answer

So, because you can't remember to put the seat down before you sit on it, you expect him to remember to put it down for you? Perhaps you would rather he just leave it down and pee on it? You want it down and he wants it up. What makes you right and him wrong?

You are a stereotypically entitled woman.

BrickBiggems · Answer

Because if we don't keep it up when we use the restroom we will LITTERALLY explode into a pile of flaming skiddles. That's why most male public restrooms have urinals, its a safety feature.

Randy888 · Answer

i personally dont want to touch my hand on the toilet seat. If i put it up i have get a piece of T-paper and safely raise it without touching the seat😅 im kind of a germaphobe.

VLAD76 · Answer

It's not adamenc, its just laziness or forgetfulness! As I've never once thought "I know what I'll do, I'll go in that toilet and leave the seat up as I just know it's down and I must leave it up! Plus it'll really annoy her!" Lol.

BluishGaze · Answer

I do both my businesses sitting down anyway. It's out of habit, since I've had a history of reading something, watching something on my phone, or playing video games.

Then I usually sit there well after I'm done with my business until I'm done with what ever else I'm occupied with. Heh...

Xhuy_006 · Answer

Why do people have a problem with this? Just put the both lids down. If it only has one, put it down. If it has two, she'll still have to lift one up. I think the main part is, some guys have no accuracy and probably dont want to wipe the seat for spray particles. I don't know its not that hard, fuck it just be a gentleman. Jeez

TheorionMage · Answer

Few home commodes use a split ring toilet seat as is found in commercial rest rooms.
As a female, do you REALLY want your private parts or underwear possibly in contact with dried male urine dribble?

Matters not, how good his aim may be, most males don't urinate seated and few have the presence of mind to check to make sure that seat is pristine... especially when intoxicated or half awake.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Your QUESTION: Why are guys so adamant about keeping the toilet seat up?  My ANSWER: Why are girls so adamant about keeping the toilet seat down?

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

I don't know. But what I'm really confused about is why some people don't look where they are about to sit. That seems weird

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'm really sorry but I had to laugh too when you said you fall in.. I know I know. I shouldn't laugh. I just wasn't expecting that! Guys are uncouth. Surely you know that by now?

BeMuse · Answer

I guess you were never potty trained as a child and never learned how to use a toilet properly. Maybe you should ask your parents to finish the job. You're 26, they are really slacking off.

dreamstar72 · Answer

Why don’t women also keep the toilet seat down? Bathrooms would look nicer.
Now if males put the toilet seatS down like they SHOULD then when you sat down for nature call you would be going all over the toilet seat and on the floor. I personally think a wet butt is better then cleaning up a worst mess.

Waldoe · Answer

guys Lift the toilet seat out of respect for the woman in the house... girls do not like sitting on pee splash... so we Lift the seat. When we are done, we Flush, also something women insist on... so 2 things Guys do for ladies... 1. we Lift the seat 2. we flush after peeing. (a total waste of water) if we had our way we would only flush after taking a Shit...
So... how can a woman be so unobservant? The seat is Up, put it down... guys sit only 1 out of 10 trips to the toilet... so Sitting is NOT our thing. Also quit bitching about such petty crap. OPEN your eyes, put the seat down or up or whatever you want... Piss in the shower, who cares?
WOW... I am so Tired of this Petty crap... grow the F' up
I close the lid when I'm done, Then no matter what... so whoever follows me Must Do Something...

AviatorTom · Answer

Guys pee standing up so we leave the seat up. Girls, stop blaming the guys for your own stupidity in not making sure the seat is down before you sit down.

Bluemax · Answer

It isn't that we're adamant, it's just that it seldom crosses our minds.

Johnagain · Answer

I must be a rare guy who even puts the seat down as I live alone.
Reason 1: When I gotta go (#2) I'm not trying to waste time and risk falling into that toilet.
I also keep the lid down 'cause I am a little clumsy with items around the sink and toilet area, so my thing is to not let something accidentally fall into the toilet... ever.

Surely · Answer

Would you rather that he would let the seat down and piss all over it in the dark. Or pick it up and let the seat be piss free for you.
I often think about that when I am out in public and they have common toilets for both genders.
Oh crap! How many genders are there now?

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

You would rather sit on on per droplets on the seat or just put it down?

Ok if you are lazy enough not put the seat down
How can you expect to lift that up everytime he pees 😸

I say it jokingly with hint of truth 😆

LogicBomber · Answer

Men put the seat up and we don’t piss and moan about it, why can’t women put it down? You are “strong and independent”  why is it our problem?

EssenceOfLight · Answer

girlfriend that I barely remember her surname, presumes she could teach me something that my mother couldn't in 18 years, isn't really more than a sweet, naive and lovely girl who thinks she has some power over me.
Is the seat up, you have to argue and set things clear occasionally. If you put the sit down, you will lose your last crumb of honor and dignity. XD

DARKCLOUD1945X · Answer

Living in a house with all girls [5] I hear it all the time now I just close everything so now they have to open the very top lid and they are bitching having to do so. Pet peeve when girls are in a strange toilet, they [HOVER] or stand or squat and talk about piss poor shots. lmfao

matchrestore · Answer

At home I sit to pee. I get to take a minute to relax, check my phone, etc., and since I clean the toilets in my house, there's an added benefit there too. Toilet seat position has never been an argument either.

dudeinohio · Answer

We have to lift it before we go, so women ought to put it down before they go. Why make an issue out of something so simple.

Bogoboj · Answer

Is this like an American thing?

I mean i never had this conversation with any woman if it wasn't started by me and they all give me the same response "you lift it up i put it down, i put it down you lift it up, there is nothing to discuss here" i am really curious where this complaint even came from cause not a single woman i know has this complaint.

dustybiker · Answer

Seems some questions are popular from week to week. Germs get spread around when the lid is up when flushed. It’s just unsanitary. Everyone in my home has always chosen to close the lid to keep the bathroom clean.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

I think the reality is typically men lift it and women sit on it. Everyone needs to look before they do their business. This is the most childish argument lol. That said if you want me to do something for you shouldn't you do the same for me?

If I put it down for you shouldn't you lift it when you're done for me?

I think there's an expression about having your cake and eating it too that needs to be inserted here.

Redhead999 · Answer

I grew up in a house with 7 brothers and my dad. Let's just say if the toilet seat is up all the better, boys are animals.

Cherrynebula · Answer

It is gross because leaving the toilet seat up means when the flush the toilet all the bacteria and toilet water urine and feces flys across the bathroom on towels and soap and toothbrushes etc. Please people... always close the seat especially before u flush

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Everyone should be putting the lid to the seat down before flushing. That's what the lid is for, so pee and poop particles don't spray all over your bathroom.

Shamalien · Answer

I think women need to concede this point. Men aren’t going to do everything for you. If you don’t look to see it’s down before sitting down you’re just an absolute potato who deserves to fall in and you have only yourself to blame. Another classic “I’m a woman and can’t take responsibility for my actions” scenario. “Everything is someone else’s fault” - 90% of modern women

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

LOL, funny description. Like the half and half idea as well. I piss a lot more than I shit, so I've always kept it up. I've even taken the splash more than once.

dolemite89 · Answer

cuz i go number one more often than number two, just flip the lid down before u plop ur ass down 😂😂

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I always keep it up and will always do, if a girl wants to enter the bathroom she than she can simply put it down and in case i entered after her and she left it down than i'll pull it up, why are you making a big deal of it?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

How do you not look? It's common sense. Pay attention.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Most residential toilets have the solid top cover that I always have down to avoid things from the shelves above falling into the bowl. So everyone has to pull up at least the cover so it’s a non-issue for me.

humanearth · Answer

Why do women care so much? Can't you just live with it

luvstoned4him · Answer

The second pic was funny as hell I want to know the answer to this question too. Otherwise, I just chock it up to men being men and not let it bug me so much

bowenw · Answer

Some guys don't get it. Try a compromise where you both close the lid after use.

one1wild00 · Answer

Well we already get a bad rap for missing, and you want us to hit a ranged smaller target standing up?

jasco · Answer

Maybe because we don't like peeing on the seat that we shit on? I mean no offense but I don't like sitting in my own pee

MrTaboo · Answer

Why are women so adamant about leaving it down. Aren't you a independent women?

cookiecrusher · Answer

So your solution is to bodyshame? With the sticker.

Are you not capable of putting the seat down?

You are not in the right you know.

2 people with different preferences need to find a compromise.

How the hell are you going to be a wife to somebody, if you can't even deal with such a small issue?

Why are you so adamant about keeping the toilet seat down? To hide your dried skid marks 😗

Exterminatore · Answer

I don't know. I don't know why they even put it up altogether. That hole with the lid down is over a foot in diameter. If you’re missing with that big of a target you need glasses or to be put to sleep.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

Just being lazy. One day they will fall in the toilet

EmmaMary · Answer

This has to be the question that all women have been asking since the invention of the toilet system. Fortunately over a long period of time, I now have my husband "toilet trained".

MTC29 · Answer

My SO and I settled that argument: in my house the toilet seats are up. In her house the seats stay down (I actually lower the lid).

Tyrael · Answer

I have to battle gravity every time I go for a pee by having to lift the seat up after you. That's a high price we're paying already. All you have to do is flip it down.

AndrésC64 · Answer

Has any girl actually sat into the toilet because the seat wasn't down? Because I never have and I don't know of any guys whoever have, and we're the ones leaving it up most of the time.

grega239 · Answer

Why are women such drama queen that you bitch about something as petty as the fucking toilet seat. Put it down and shut up. You dont hear men complaining when women leave the seat down do you?

Anonymous · Answer

That’s a funny sticker, I think he would get the point each time so I say go for it and put it on there. I happen to always put it back down if there is women in the house

msc545 · Answer

Because if we get urine on the toilet seat, women bitch about THAT.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

On the contrary, I'm adamant on putting it down myself.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

We are not. It’s only those who have fuck all hygiene do it.

Hulk30 · Answer

because most of em subconsciously dont consider women

nikiWerduch18 · Answer

I don’t know ha but I know that my man always leaves it down and I love him for that 🚽

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