Why are guys so adamant about keeping the toilet seat up?

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

My best friend and I are constantly bickering about the toilet seat. He always leaves it up, and it is so annoying. Sometimes at night when I am half asleep I don’t look and I fall in the toilet 😠, and when I tell him this he has the audacity to laugh at me! Why won’t he just put the seat down 😭?

Also, on a side note, do you think he would get mad if I put a sticker on the toilet.

🥰 Thank you for reading this, and I hope you have a lovely day 🥰

[WhiteSteve]

I never understand this, just because I was taught that the toilet LID stays on at all times when not in use. So every time it gets used, by males and females alike, the toilet is being adjusted to your specific needs. Also, not trying to give the ladies a hard time here, but WHY ON EARTH would anyone ever dream of sitting on a toilet without looking first? That’s like crossing the street without looking both ways, haha, it’s careless and reckless. That sticker you posted bugs me out too…. you want us to attempt to pee with the seat down? The seat that YOU, not us, will be sitting on? I don’t even try for that out of respect for others, lmao.

I don’t know, picking up and putting down seats and lids is so simple, I just don’t know why we don’t just all agree to close the lid every time, and the next person just makes whatever adjustment they need. It really shouldn’t be at all challenging for any of us, lmfao.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I don’t look when I sit down a lot of the time. I don’t know why.
I want him to lift the seat up to pee, but put it back down when he is done.
That makes sense

[TonyV]

Why do girls so adamant about keeping the seat down?

It's made to go both ways and your argument can easily be reversed. What if I'm half asleep and don't notice it's down? You're just being selfish and intitled to expect it to always be leaft in a convenient way for you, you sound like you aren't ready to live with a man, you need to grow up more. The seat is made to be up or down there is no one right position.

1 it's not problem if you can't open your eyes and look before you sit, what am I responsible for you not burning yourself in the shower too? Grow up.

2 any girl that is such a control freak that she wants to make rules about a toilet seat can get the fuck out my life, she's an overbearing control freak and I don't need that shit in my life, I don't need a helpless Dansel that can't put a seat down on her own.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Good points.
I have been sort of living with him and 5 other guys for almost 12 years now.
Also I would like to say that we just playfully picker about it. It’s not that serious. We just like to mess with each other about it, but I do find it a little annoying.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

6 other guys* I forgot about my brother 😂

[TonyV]

Thanks for the mho, re reading my post I sound a bit buthurt, must have been in a mood that day lol

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

You’re welcome lol.

[Jumpintoadstool]

The way I see it, you're disgusting for not putting the lid down after each use anyway so good riddance. Also, the word you are looking for is "entitled", and the way I see it, I touch the toilet enough when I am the one cleaning it all the time. You can put the seat and lid down before flushing because its hygienic and the courteous thing to do. If thats too difficult for you, you're no prize anyway.

[Tinana]

My biggest fear because of being in boarding school and sharing a toilets with a group of girls is seeing the toilet seat down. If it’s closed I’m not going to open it because something dangerous is inside I’ve been scarred tooo muchhh.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

What are you scared of?

[Tinana]

Seeing different poops and weird things in there my poor eyes 🥺

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Don’t the girls flush?

[Tinana]

Some people just don’t have manners sooo now I’m scared of closed toilet seats because my brain just says danger danger

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

That’s disgusting! Thankfully, I have never come across a dirty bathroom before.
Can you get a room with it’s own bathroom?

[Tinana]

This was from high school which wasn’t possible I’m in college it’s possible but way too expensive it’s better to share I just won’t raise the lid up

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Hmmm can’t you complain to your RA about it?

[Tinana]

This happened from high school and they didn’t care. But now I’m college I’m already used to not raising the lid up so it’s been okay. The worst dayyyy was when all the lids were down I thought I was going to pass out 😂 luckily their was nothing wrong all though I’ve seen some horrors here but not as scarring

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Oh I see. Ike glad the bathrooms are better in college.

[Tinana]

Me too🥰

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

And hopefully one day you won’t have to share your bathroom! ☺️

[Tinana]

🥰🥰 yeah I can’t wait

[StrawberryShake]

Girl grow up and look where you're sitting. It takes 1 second to flip the lid back down, and guess what? 1 second for him to flip it up when you leave it closed. My god pick your battles

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

We just playfully bicker about it. We don’t actually fight.

[willyppah]

This is just a personal view of things it’s not about guys or girls.
In my opinion the seat should either be covered so the cover gets down on it or if there’s no cover better to keep it up, so that it is always clear and not splashed with anything from the sink or anything that can fall on it from anything around it.


Meanwhile, for me it’s a matter of cleanliness and protection from getting dirty especially when you are in hurry to use bathroom but you find something spilled on it or fell from ceiling on it…. That can lead you to better not to use the seat instead of wasting time to clean it before you sit. 🤷

[FunkyMonkee]

Why do women insist that it be down at all times? Why can't you just check to see if it's down before you go? Or, you could learn to pee standing up. It CAN be done! If I have to go take a shit, I don't just ASSUME the seat is down, I check, first, and it only takes a split second to do so! If it's not down, it only takes about 2 seconds to PUT IT down. Why is that so hard of a concept to deal with? You've spent your entire bathroom life sitting down to use the toilet! Why wouldn't you check first? We only spend about 1/3 of our life sitting on the toilet! The bulk of us don't just ASSUME that the seat it up anytime WE have to pee and you should be damn grateful for that!

[Jumpintoadstool]

3 out of 4 times the seat needs to be down anyway and you should be closing the lid before flushing for hygienic reasons. Its not that hard. Put the seat down you nasty.

[FunkyMonkee]

@Jumpintoadstool You should be checking to SEE if the seat is down before you use it, for sanitary reasons, you sleazy. If I can check before I use it, there's NO reason in the WORLD why YOU can't check, too! Except for pure laziness or thinking you're a special little princess.

[Jumpintoadstool]

1. I just told you i put the lid down after flushing. This means i have to look to lift it before use, genius.
2. Women stillbdo The majority of housework in most households regardless of employment status. The least men can do is put the seat and lid down for sanitary reasons and to help out. Grow up.

[FunkyMonkee]

@Jumpintoadstool 1. The seat, brain trust!
2. The majority of men bust ass at work all day every day to be able to feed the women and children! You SHOULD be courteous enough to lift or put down your own damn seat!! How lazy can you get!! Grow a brain!!

[Jumpintoadstool]

1. What are you on about? I already explained this to you, im not sure whats so hard for you to understand.
2. so do women. The vast majority of women bust their ass working full time AND take care of business at home. So ill repeat: putting the lid and seat down is the least you can do.

[jshm2]

They aren't, any more than girls are so adamant to have it down.

The "problem" is neither side wants to touch the ring someone elses ass has been on.

Easy solutions are that if you're in a mixed household, unless you're suffering diarrhea, always leave it opposite of what you found it.
Else always have it down, but always wipe it before and after you use the toilet.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Actually, problem solved! My absolutely amazingly wonderful lovely best friend recently bought me a little handle that you can attach to the toilet, so that I can touch the handle to move the seat instead of the toilet. 🥰

[Mangospacho]

It’s for efficiency and it’s a time saving move. According to a recent scientific study from MIT, the average male only sits on the toilet 12.5% of the time and, thus, wastes time putting the toilet seat down every time. The study concluded that far more time is wasted putting the toilet seat up and very little time is wasted putting the toilet seat down. The study calculated that the average male wastes 2.4 years of their life putting the toilet seat up while the average female only wasted 0.2 years of their life putting the toilet seat down. In conclusion, leaving the toilet seat up every time is 20x more efficient than putting the toilet seat down.

[Ekiewlen]

Cuz it hurts to bed and lift it up. We need it up we only put it down. And when done being down I can lift it up on my way back up so I don’t have to unnesecarily bend twice. Pointless bending is the worst thing ever if you’re a guy. (Hence our groans when doing so it actually hurts our souls).

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Why does bending hurt?

[Anonymous]

So, because you can't remember to put the seat down before you sit on it, you expect him to remember to put it down for you? Perhaps you would rather he just leave it down and pee on it? You want it down and he wants it up. What makes you right and him wrong?

You are a stereotypically entitled woman.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I never said I was right and he was wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

So, you're pissed at him despite knowing he's done nothing wrong. Okay

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I am not pissed. He and I just jokingly bicker about it.

[Opinion Owner]

Understood, but there is a bigger issue here. It's one of female entitlement.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I think it is less about entitlement and more being too focused on our problems that we don’t see others’ point of view. Everyone does this, not just women.

[Opinion Owner]

Being focused on one's own needs and thinking theirs are more important than others' is indeed entitlement.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Most people are more focused on their needs, because their feelings are causing them to. It is not that they think that their needs are more important, but they just don’t see the other person’s needs. If the person learns about the other person’s feelings and still doesn’t care, then that’s entitlement. If the person talks it over with the other person and is open to understanding the other person point of view, then thats not entitlement.

[Opinion Owner]

"I want you to do all the work in adjusting the toilet seat for me so I don't have to" is indeed entitlement.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I wasn’t talking about me. I was talking about people and women in general.

[Opinion Owner]

Understood

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Yeah 😊

[BrickBiggems]

Because if we don't keep it up when we use the restroom we will LITTERALLY explode into a pile of flaming skiddles. That's why most male public restrooms have urinals, its a safety feature.

[Randy888]

i personally dont want to touch my hand on the toilet seat. If i put it up i have get a piece of T-paper and safely raise it without touching the seat😅 im kind of a germaphobe.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Haha I do the same! 😁

[VLAD76]

It's not adamenc, its just laziness or forgetfulness! As I've never once thought "I know what I'll do, I'll go in that toilet and leave the seat up as I just know it's down and I must leave it up! Plus it'll really annoy her!" Lol.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

But he does. I have been brushing my teeth and I watch him walk in lift the lid, smirk or wink at me, and the walk out of the bathroom.

[BluishGaze]

I do both my businesses sitting down anyway. It's out of habit, since I've had a history of reading something, watching something on my phone, or playing video games.

Then I usually sit there well after I'm done with my business until I'm done with what ever else I'm occupied with. Heh...

[Xhuy_006]

Why do people have a problem with this? Just put the both lids down. If it only has one, put it down. If it has two, she'll still have to lift one up. I think the main part is, some guys have no accuracy and probably dont want to wipe the seat for spray particles. I don't know its not that hard, fuck it just be a gentleman. Jeez

[TheorionMage]

Few home commodes use a split ring toilet seat as is found in commercial rest rooms.
As a female, do you REALLY want your private parts or underwear possibly in contact with dried male urine dribble?

Matters not, how good his aim may be, most males don't urinate seated and few have the presence of mind to check to make sure that seat is pristine... especially when intoxicated or half awake.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Your QUESTION: Why are guys so adamant about keeping the toilet seat up?
My ANSWER: Why are girls so adamant about keeping the toilet seat down?

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

🥲 You sound just like him.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

You know what would be funny? If your boyfriend, I mean you best friend one night went into the bathroom & took out a screwdriver & removed the actual seat. Problem solved & splash for you.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

https://youtu.be/egkzyAFJ-g8 Share this video with your guy friend.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

You, sir, are an evil genius!
What’s the video about?

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Oh it just loaded. I keep my toothbrushes in the room.

[Dragonstarterplus]

I don't know. But what I'm really confused about is why some people don't look where they are about to sit. That seems weird

[Jamie05rhs]

It's because women are inferior. Lol

[Dragonstarterplus]

@Jamie05rhs

Ouch that's mean. But I meant do they have this problem with other seats? Like do they routinely sit on things laying on the couch cause they just sit blindly without looking what's there first? I just don't get it

[Jamie05rhs]

@Dragonstarterplus I was just joking lol.

But yeah; seriously. I don't know, man! 🤷

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I don’t look to sit most of the time. I have fallen a lot. I also somehow fall when I am sitting in a chair. I’m just super clumsy.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm really sorry but I had to laugh too when you said you fall in.. I know I know. I shouldn't laugh. I just wasn't expecting that!

Guys are uncouth. Surely you know that by now?

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

It is kind of funny, but in the moment it is not.
Yes I know, but not all! My other best guy friend is like the neatest clean freak ever! 😭

[BeMuse]

I guess you were never potty trained as a child and never learned how to use a toilet properly. Maybe you should ask your parents to finish the job. You're 26, they are really slacking off.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Why do I need my parents? I’m sure there a videos on YouTube!

[BeMuse]

Because you're 26 and you haven't figured out how to operate a toilet seat yet... If you want it up you pick it up. If you want it down you put it down. It's like a car door turned on it's side... I don't know if you can understand that. Ask your parents to show you... I'm pretty sure you're mentally handicapped, so they should still be taking care of you.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

But I can’t, because my parents always avoid me 😭

[dreamstar72]

Why don’t women also keep the toilet seat down? Bathrooms would look nicer.
Now if males put the toilet seatS down like they SHOULD then when you sat down for nature call you would be going all over the toilet seat and on the floor. I personally think a wet butt is better then cleaning up a worst mess.

[Waldoe]

guys Lift the toilet seat out of respect for the woman in the house... girls do not like sitting on pee splash... so we Lift the seat. When we are done, we Flush, also something women insist on... so 2 things Guys do for ladies... 1. we Lift the seat 2. we flush after peeing. (a total waste of water) if we had our way we would only flush after taking a Shit...
So... how can a woman be so unobservant? The seat is Up, put it down... guys sit only 1 out of 10 trips to the toilet... so Sitting is NOT our thing. Also quit bitching about such petty crap. OPEN your eyes, put the seat down or up or whatever you want... Piss in the shower, who cares?
WOW... I am so Tired of this Petty crap... grow the F' up
I close the lid when I'm done, Then no matter what... so whoever follows me Must Do Something...

[Waldoe]

errr... Rant Much? lol

[Waldoe]

Maybe we should just leave the seat down and then close the lid? that way you get a wet seat and still have to move "complicated and confusing" Toilet parts... sheeezzzz

[AviatorTom]

Guys pee standing up so we leave the seat up. Girls, stop blaming the guys for your own stupidity in not making sure the seat is down before you sit down.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

But it’s makes me feel so much better to blame him for my stupidity than to admit that my stupidity is my own fault! 😭

[AviatorTom]

@ShineBeauTAEfully You're a typical woman... always want to blame someone else when you're at fault. My SO does that often... drives me nuts.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

Don’t blame me for being a typical woman, it’s not my fault! 😂

[Bluemax]

It isn't that we're adamant, it's just that it seldom crosses our minds.

[ShineBeauTAEfully]

I think he sometimes does it to annoy me.