So, I have had this same friends with benefits for 7 years now. Throughout these 7 years, we have both been married at different times, so we have never had the chance to really try being together. We have sworn off talking to each other multiple times, and he has always been the one to start communication back up, not me. SO... I drunk-texted him a couple of years ago basically (pathetically) saying "why wasn't I good enough for you?" (Cringe-worthy, I know) so I didn't even expect to get a response from him, but instead he replied 'I never realized you wanted anything real with me. I always thought we got along great and had the same views on just about everything'. So, of course I was too embarrassed to bring it back up, so we went on like it never happened. So flash forward a few years later, all the while he has messaged me asking to come live in AK (He's also a travel nurse like myself), or other messages with similar subject matter.
So now, it has FINALLY happened where him and I are both single at the same time. We have been hanging out, but I have NEVER met anyone like him as far as being emotionally closed-off. He confides in me about how sick his mother is, and other personal things... BUT HE DOESN'T seem to be interested in the intimate physical parts, like KISSING, or wanting to cuddle or hold me when we sleep in the same bed together.
I don't know what to do... I don't want to push him away by forcing him to define the relationship... but I also don't want to be wasting ANOTHER 7 years on him if he's a dick.
Opinions on ALL of the above welcome!
Thank you,
Mollie
So now, it has FINALLY happened where him and I are both single at the same time. We have been hanging out, but I have NEVER met anyone like him as far as being emotionally closed-off. He confides in me about how sick his mother is, and other personal things... BUT HE DOESN'T seem to be interested in the intimate physical parts, like KISSING, or wanting to cuddle or hold me when we sleep in the same bed together.
I don't know what to do... I don't want to push him away by forcing him to define the relationship... but I also don't want to be wasting ANOTHER 7 years on him if he's a dick.
Opinions on ALL of the above welcome!
Thank you,
Mollie
