How can a boyfriend go from sweet to rage too fast?

[Anonymous]

We've been dating for 7 months now and I'm noticing something strange. I don't know if this is even normal.

Our last argument was over not pouring 1 whole lemon into my tea. I only poured 1/2 of the lemon and saved the other 1/2 for later. He made a big deal out of it, gave me the cold shoulders, said he'll start talking to me when I finally listen to him and even threatened to break-up. Then he started talking about how he does everything for me, putting too many I, I, I in his sentences, talking about just himself.

Just minutes before that happened he was romantic and sweet, claiming I was the love of his life, how I'm different from other girls, how he dreams about having kids with me next year, etc.

This is the 3rd time he has suddenly changed his mood so drastically in the same day. He turned a normal, happy day into a nightmare. He went from ''you're the love of my life'' and all sweet to ''I'll break up, how dare you do this'' like a Dr Hyde thing. Is this even normal?

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It's like he exaggerates things. I feel like the argument he created just over pouring 1/2 of a lemon is too much and isn't normal. I feel there shouldn't have even been any argument (without a real valid reason) on a normal, peaceful day.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t sound normal to me. All I can really say is to pay attention to the signs and red flags rather than dismissing or sweeping them aside. This is his personality, and the more comfortable he gets with you the more of this side of him you will see. It’s only going to get harder to leave the longer you stick around and the last you want is some explosive, physical altercation— don’t put it past him or anyone else.

[Asker]

I'm already feeling like breaking up. I don't like the way he spoke to me. He made me feel like I can be replaceable any moment, that I'm worthless.

[Opinion Owner]

And that’s absolutely not ok. Breaking up is no easy task, but it’s better than sticking around for more of that behavior. He would probably apologize and stuff if you called him out on it but now he’s show you his true personality and it is not a good person.

[Little_Bumblebee]

That does not sound normal, and I would call this a huge red flag.

[Asker]

Yes I don't like the way he spoke to me. No one has ever made me feel devalued ever in my life.

[Little_Bumblebee]

You shouldn't accept that. It can quickly escalate, and because there's that sweet moment as well, so many try to justify that kind of behavior.
Be careful.

Even if you have a valid argument, it shouldn't end in shouting and something so extreme, not if you want it to be a healthy relationship.

[Anonymous]

Satan or bipolar... or both. Time to say goodbye but you might want to change all of the locks or install CCTV first.

[whereismyjohnny]

Okay, this is a red flag, and definitely not normal. I'd leave tbh.

[jjj101010]

Possible bipolar

[Asker]

Then I guess I need to break up. I'm already feel like walking on eggshells... as if anything I may do wrong or say something wrong, it'll create another argument like that and I'll get threatened with a break-up again.

[jjj101010]

Yeah difficult situation!