Is it true that guys dont ask me out because I come off as a little girl not a "woman"?

[Babyprincess82]

I wouldn't really describe myself as some fox woman so i get why nobody would see me as a WOMAN they wanna take on a date. Its my personality and naybe my dress sense too. Im in my late 20s and i want to be a SAHM AND WIFE and be a good person and stuff. I dont have premarital sex so maybe that affects my aura and men can tell im different and they dont pck up WOMAN WHO HAS SEX vibes?

[FilmGuy93]

Could be... if you give off an immature vibe, a lot of guys simply won't want to deal with you. I know that I avoid young women like the plague because of how I've seen them behave.

[Babyprincess82]

What does immature mean to you? What behaviors?

[FilmGuy93]

Immature in that she sees the people around her in a very simplistic way, doesn't handle conflict well; things like that.

[FilmGuy93]

She might also be a bit of a party animal, or post certain things on social media.

[Babyprincess82]

Oh thats NOT ME AT ALL then. I avoid conflict and i am celibate til marriage and i dont use social media!!

[FilmGuy93]

You probably do actually give off an immature vibe... You don't have any experience interacting with men. That's what being immature means (in this context, at least).

[Babyprincess82]

Haha you didn't even mention that at first when i asked what immature means. 🤣 but what do you mean by interact with men? Is that a reference to sex or just basic talking to men as friends orrrr?

[FilmGuy93]

I tried to allude to it and keep things general because I wasn't really sure how else to answer your question.

What I mean by "interact with men" is you don't have the life experience to understand things like when a man is flirting with you, how men will interact with your friends, how to kiss, how to have sex, how to connect with men emotionally. Pretty much everything there is to know about interacting with men as woman, you don't know because it's literally impossible to know those things without having experienced them.

[Babyprincess82]

How do you connect with men emotionally?

[FilmGuy93]

You just do... there's no one way; you have to feel it out.

[Babyprincess82]

Do you feel connected with me?

[FilmGuy93]

Of course not. We only just met.

[Babyprincess82]

Ok...

[FilmGuy93]

It takes time =) You have interact with the personal regularly. Have a fun activity to do together, build trust slowly; that sort of thing.

[Babyprincess82]

Ohhh okay. Men never wanna do activities with me they just want to try to get me to do inappropriate activities like clubbing and getting drunk or smoking weed or strip clubs. I never get taken or invited to real places with real activities. I feel unloved.

[FilmGuy93]

You have to put yourself in situations to meet men who like to do the things you like to do too. Join a hiking club or whatever.

[Babyprincess82]

Im so busy working and outside work im tired and need alone time as im an introvert. Going to clubs is like unpaid work 🤣

[FilmGuy93]

I get it, but that's how you have to live if you want to find a good relationship. The kinds of men who will think it's appropriate to approach you in the workplace are the kinds who struggle to understand boundaries, and there isn't much quality control in online dating.

[Babyprincess82]

Hmm interesting thank you

[Guy__]

Likely it is because you're not into premarital sex.
It changes the way I perceive women.

[Babyprincess82]

Oh awesome! But actually most men dont get to the point where they find that out Lmao. I know if some of the persistent ones found out, they might stop showing me so much attention.

[Babyprincess82]

There is one guy though. I think he overheard me tell ANOTHER guy that. So im assuming he knows. I've also said before that i dont have sex and he replid that its ok to touch myself. 🤣 so i think he gets that im special.

[Babyprincess82]

I still wonder why he doesn't ask me out and its been years but he seems nervous around me to this day 🤣

[Guy__]

I don't think the difference is huge but something is noticable. Maybe those that had sex are more direct with their seduction attempts, while others are more shy and indirect.

[Babyprincess82]

thanks for clearing that up cause i did wonder if there was some sort of difference. Shy and indirect describe me well.

[Babyprincess82]

Im curious what other girls who have sex do to seduce guys 🤣

[Babyprincess82]

Yeah no thanks i dont have premarital sex.

[Guy__]

Similar things, similarly shy while doing it, but little more confidence like they are experienced.

[Babyprincess82]

Ohhh okay o. O thats weird and gross! Sex is for marriage only!~

[serious]

I don't know maybe you look much younger than you are in reality. It is also possible that your facial features are like a girl and not like a woman.