Why are men attracted to slow texters?

[Anonymous]

Time and time again I’ve noticed that men appear to be attracted when I reply slow (around 2-8 hours after they send the text). When I do this they always reply like 1-2 min later. However if I’m the one to text back in 1-2 min, they’re the ones that take 2-8 hours to reply.
I’ve even tried this out on a guy that would take forever to reply and wouldn’t hit me up first. I started taking 2-8 hours to reply, now he hits me up. When I go back to texting in a few minutes, he slowly goes back to replying later and later.
I feel like I’ve discovered some secret, but why is it that some men seem to appreciate slow replies more?

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Maybe it's an age thing, but I know what I've observed. I downloaded a dating app to test this out. I wrote down around how many hours/minutes I'd reply to each guy with. Surely enough the guys on the early end of the stick ended up replying less or straight up ghosting. The guys in the 2-8 hour range, in increasing order showed more interest and replied more. However guys in the 8+ hour range either got mad/upset with me or ghosted.

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s slightly weird thinking that texting fast, slow, replying or not replying quickly is an attraction.

people even when dating, in a relationship or married have a life outside the relationship. This means they may be slow texting or quick or everything in between.

it would be a huge dump them thing if they made an issue over texting, messaging.

[Asker]

If she made an issue over anything unbig it would be a huge dump. But yeah I was wondering that, if this is the case now what happens when they do turn into something more serious - relationship, marriage etc. I think it might be in the initial stages, before they are dating and until they are both busy an average reply time is respectable. I don't know. But I don’t think any guy would want a woman always texts back seconds after they text

[Pyrofox]

You simply seem less NEEDY. Its kinda sexy if a woman is independent on some level.

[WhitneySnow]

A lot of guys see texting back right away as being clingy

[WhitneySnow]

Thanks

[Asker]

Of course!

[OlderAndWiser]

There is nothing about a girl texting or not texting that makes me feel attracted to her. And I prefer that most communications in a relationship be via actual telephone calls and not cowardly texts.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

We don’t want someone showing us too much interest. You have to make us think you could be blowing some random dude tonight

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

How dare you! You are just experimenting on guys

[Asker]

👀 I mean

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

You are the reason why I don’t even use dating apps. Girls are just playing with us

[Asker]

I’ve lost too many guys to fast replies so I don’t feel that bad about it

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

You basic ass hoe! You prove my assumptions to be true which is that girls see us as just options and disposables we can just be thrown away and replaced or played with.

[Asker]

Damn I guess you’re right

[Asker]

One question though - isn’t that what you guys want? A slow replier? I mean based on what I’ve found. What is the harm done?

[Asker]

I was actually interested in these men by the way. I’m hanging out with one tonight and I’ve stopped the crazy experimenting

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Could be coincidence. What is your sample size? The experiment would have to be repeated for accuracy ma’am.

[Asker]

Well... the sample size isn't that big. But I know it can't be coincidence because I've found it to be true my entire life. I guess thats why they say play hard to get. It's stupid but for some reason there are some odd balls out there that take one step closer for every pull away.

[Asker]

Maybe its because people who text back too fast can be annoying

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Look, cancel that date and you leave that man alone. I’ve been there before on those dating apps. I was used and abused. One girl stole my iPhone. Another one played with my heart. The last girl broke my heart and now I’m just realizing that these girls are only out to play with us

[Asker]

I can't just ghost him. He likes me, I like him.

[Asker]

The thing that upsets me though is when I start texting back fast he replies later and later. So I don't know, but if you really wanted me to "leave him alone" the right action would actually be texting back fast until he ghosts me, not ghost him, that only seems to hurt them

[Asker]

Or make them chase even harder sometimes

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

He is playing that game. Sucks.

[Asker]

Yeah : but im open to advice, if you think I should still leave let me know. im a fast texter by heart, purposely trying to text slow for him to like me feels out of nature

[Asker]

and I do feel rather upset when he starts replying slower as a result

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

You need to find someone you can be yourself with.
I once dated a girl for two years that was pretending to be a nice girl. She was nice to me and a total bitch to everyone else. Her step mom baked her a personal cake for her birthday and she said it was trash and didn’t eat it in front of her. Later on she started being a total bitch to me. This is who she was all along and she was only pretending to be a nice girl to me but she was actually a mean girl. She is now dating a guy that I know will be a living hell for him because he isn’t that attractive so he doesn’t have a lot of options. He will have to put up with her or be single forever alone. Poor guy.

[Asker]

Wow thats insane but its true, they can't always put up the act forever! How was she being a bitch to you by the way?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

It was 65F outside and she had the car heater on full blast. I couldn’t even breathe and she didn’t even let me open my window.
We were eating at some chicken place and she was on her phone ignoring me.
I bought her an expensive iron set for her hair and she complained about the color of it and said it was the wrong color and she only liked pink. It was a black set.
She threw away my nicest dress shirt and said I looked too cute in it for other girls to see. When I got it out of trash, she cut it with scissors

[Asker]

Thats insane omg. I don't think I would ever treat a guy like that. She must not have appreciated you. Also update, date is cancelled. he was taking too long and my friend convinced me to hang out with her mans friend instead :|

[spartan55]

We don't really give a shit about that stuff. Girls are the one's obsessed with it.

[Anonymous]

I have never cared about how long it takes for her to respond. If she doesn't respond for awhile, I just assume she's busy and end up getting distracted by video games or something. It's not a big deal.

[Crankor]

I find it frustrating and stop texting at all. If I can't have a real time conversation here and there then I don't bother

[Anonymous]

It's the other way around. The less interest she shows, the faster I move on to someone who's actually compatible. Anyone actually caring about texting time habits is a deal breaker to me, I can't stand fake girls who have no personality

[Anonymous]

What a stupid statement. I have never thought about a girl in terms of how fast or slow she texts.

[Asker]

Thanks for being one of the better men

[RHK36]

Sounds like you got too much free time

[Asker]

Looks like you do too

[Agagagagaga]

Dude you sit around timing how fast people respond to you lol. Who cares! 😂

[Asker]

@Agagagagaga And you sit around sea-lioning the internet, posting useless replies. Broke man activities.

[Anonymous]

This is fucking hilarious.

[Asker]

It sure is

[Opinion Owner]

Nice, it's not common to see a girl who can laugh at herself.

[Asker]

Oh honey, I’m laughing at the stupidity of liking someone more because they don’t reply so fast. Try not to cry over things on the internet sweetheart.

[Opinion Owner]

Not sure how you made the leap from hilarious to crying, but I guess it shouldn't be too surprising coming from someone who would post such a comically ignorant question.

[Asker]

That some anonymous man on GaG seems to be very triggered over. I don’t take anon insults seriously honey, clearly you were too scared for everyone to figure out how much of a baby you are ;)

[Opinion Owner]

Says the anonymous female on GAG. LMAO. Thanks again for all the comedy. Proceless!

[Asker]

Proceless! Just like your spelling. Bye sweetheart :)

[Opinion Owner]

I see texting is not the only thing you're slow at.

[Asker]

I see spelling isn’t the only thing you’re bad at 🥴 like I said, get lost. Not coming back to your goofy ass again.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I've been known to misspell something on occasion, but I've never posted a question nearly as stupid as your question here. You seriously need to get a life.

[Asker]

And so do you :) byee

[Opinion Owner]

LMAO. How many ties are you going to say you're not coming back?

[EdwinLivingston_]

I'm not

[Slim57]

I'm not she can get lost