What do y’all think?

[Hawaiikai]

I don’t know if I’m desperate, crazy, lonely, just wanting the attention, jealous. I just met this guy in person after flirting for a couple months and we did “HAVE FUN” and hooked up. I was drunk. Now, I can’t stop thinking of him? I know I have to trust my intuition but has anyone been
through this?

Updates

+1 y

Or just insecure?

[nachosaresexy]

That's a pretty common thing. So y'all had been communicating for a while before meeting up? If so, I assume you're able to contact him if you want to. Just send him a casual message like you had been the past couple months. See how he responds. Are you thinking he might be ready to just move on now that y'all actually hooked up?

[Hawaiikai]

Yes but he has checked up on me like 2days after and called me once stuff. He called me asking if I was ok again and also on Facebook messenger asking again if I was ok. , but it’s faded now. Maybe he has found someone else or just lost interest. Which I know I have no control over.

[nachosaresexy]

Why would he ask if you were "ok"? Did anything weird happen during the hookup? Or are you saying that was just a casual way of him checking in to see how you were doing?

How long has it been since the hookup? When's the last time you contacted him?

[spartan55]

@Hawaiikai
So he has contacted you three times and you assume he found someone else or lost interest? How many times have you contacted him?

[Hawaiikai]

It kind of got quiet one the way home. He said did I do something wrong? I said no. But the whole night it was fun, get get along and clicked.

[Hawaiikai]

Like two weeks ago

[Hawaiikai]

@spartan55 I haven’t contacted him

[Hawaiikai]

@nachosaresexy

[nachosaresexy]

@Hawaiikai Best way to find out is to just send him a casual note and suggest hanging out. Dinner, coffee, some type of casual outing like that.

[spartan55]

@Hawaiikai
I guess you expect to do nothing? Quite a double standard you have. He probably thinks that you lost interest and found someone else too.

[Hawaiikai]

@spartan55 I’m just really insecure. I shouldn’t let my past into the present. I just don’t feel good enough. Even if it’s not someone I’m not even attracted to physically, I still have Theese thoughts about not being good enough and they can do better. I know that’s my problem that I need to work on myself. Maybe I’m mentally ill? I don’t know. I know it’s not the end of the world and there really is plenty of fish in the sea. It’s just I wasn’t expecting to feel this way. To click with someone and feel so comfortable. Maybe I’m desperate too? Who knows I Guess it’s something I need to work on.

[spartan55]

Just drop him a line... smh