We've been together 15 years, not married... he's turning 47 and I'm about to be 40. I don't feel like I'm a part of his life, like I don't exist.
He's got the freedom of being self employed but goes all day without calling or texting and doesn't come home until well after midnight, usually it's past 2am. If I call or text him he usually doesn't answer or respond and if he does he answers the phone with a "Yeah", like I'm bothering him or something. If he is around, he'll just walk out the door without saying anything or asking me to go. He's not affectionate, but we still have sex, but not as much as we used to. When he sleeps, he cuddles with his dog, but he won't allow my dog to be on the bed, EVER. He says he hates my dog and that he's worthless and better off dead and anything my dog does irritates him to the point of anger. He says I put my dog before him because I won't get rid of him.
I've tried so many times to talk to him about how he makes me feel but nothing changes. When my feelings are hurt, I can't cry in front of him because he just gets angry and says "This is the reason I'm never around, I don't want to deal with this." So I don't even try to tell him how he's making me feel anymore. I feel like I'm not a priority or of importance and I feel like I'm not good enough or me giving my 100% isn't good enough. I've felt this way for some years now.
He tells me he loves me and that he still wants to be with me and says nothing is wrong.
He's got the freedom of being self employed but goes all day without calling or texting and doesn't come home until well after midnight, usually it's past 2am. If I call or text him he usually doesn't answer or respond and if he does he answers the phone with a "Yeah", like I'm bothering him or something. If he is around, he'll just walk out the door without saying anything or asking me to go. He's not affectionate, but we still have sex, but not as much as we used to. When he sleeps, he cuddles with his dog, but he won't allow my dog to be on the bed, EVER. He says he hates my dog and that he's worthless and better off dead and anything my dog does irritates him to the point of anger. He says I put my dog before him because I won't get rid of him.
I've tried so many times to talk to him about how he makes me feel but nothing changes. When my feelings are hurt, I can't cry in front of him because he just gets angry and says "This is the reason I'm never around, I don't want to deal with this." So I don't even try to tell him how he's making me feel anymore. I feel like I'm not a priority or of importance and I feel like I'm not good enough or me giving my 100% isn't good enough. I've felt this way for some years now.
He tells me he loves me and that he still wants to be with me and says nothing is wrong.
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UPDATE: He didn't come home for days while ignoring my texts and calls until just earlier he made an appearance at home for like 15 minutes acting like I don't have a right to be upset. I think all of you were correct stating the relationship is over. Turning 40 is not the version of me I want to be entering the dating scene with. Lol
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