When a guy tells you that he’s been having a lot of doubts about his feelings and says it’s because of school could he be lying?

[xJayleenx]

He said it’s because of college and how he doesn’t want to go to pa school anymore. But the way that he said that he’s doubting his feelings made me feel like he’s doubting his feelings for me. He didn’t text me the whole day at work and when I asked him what’s wrong that’s making him feel this way he told me that it was several things but only told me about school and said that he didn’t know how to explain the rest. When I asked him if he’s doubting his feelings for me he immediately said no but I kind of feel like maybe he is? Because he never makes plans for us to hang out it’s always me making plans and he has turned down sex sometimes or when I want a round 2 or something so maybe he’s not that attracted to me.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I don't think it's that you're not attractive or anything. I can understand why you might think that, but it sounds to me more like he's still figuring himself out.

At your guys' age, that's pretty normal and healthy.

You might need to let him go so he can focus on developing himself. He's not able to give you what you need or want, and that's not fair to you. But it would also be unfair and harmful for you to push staying together when clearly neither of you are getting what you need.

I suggest you two break up, or take a break at least (but that's confusing and will probably only make you both feel weird - clear cut is best), and spend time figuring out what you want.

Sounds like you're further along in this than he is (normal, women generally mature at a faster rate than most men).

It sucks, but I think you'll both be happier taking the time to develop more as individuals. Maybe you can arrange to revisit the relationship after a few years of growing - if you're both single at that time, maybe you can try again.

[xJayleenx]

We’ve been together for over two years why should I let him go? And we could figure out things while we’re together

[xJayleenx]

I’m the one that has always been unsure of my career not him.

[xJayleenx]

Breaks are just stupid and an open excuse to cheat

[saffoler]

Seems suspicious. You need to sit him down and talk things out.

[NathanDavis]

I think it is a really bad idea that you dismiss his words and his worries about school

and that you rather not believe him and to make all this about yourself... because that not only is bad by itself, but it could also bring him to a position in which he decides not to open up anymore

if he is already having a difficult to be open about what's messing him up, then what is the point if you're not going to trust him anyway, and make it about yourself

don't overthink this, be there for him because that is what he needs right now

[Bklynbadboy12]

Now you know how you are don't do this to yourself. I need you to stop speculating and I mean right now and sit down with him and have a honest heart-to-heart talk with him instead of driving yourself crazy making things up that aren't really there. Ok! You're a good friend and I hate it when you stress yourself out like this so promise me you're not gonna do this anymore and you're gonna sit down with your boyfriend that you've been with for years and have a serious talk with him about how he's feeling about you and what's going on with him OK

[Bklynbadboy12]

Promise me your gonna talk to him

[Bklynbadboy12]

Thanks for the MHO and are you ok did you talk to him

[Andres77]

He's hiding something. If he was genuine he'd openly share. If he hesitates to share and blames the stress of school...🤨... really?
So is he going to want to transfer schools now?
Is he hinting that he is going to have to move?

[xJayleenx]

No he can’t transfer schools he is about to graduate soon.

[Andres77]

What happens when he graduates and you have two years of school left?

[xJayleenx]

I don’t know what’s wrong with him but he keeps on prolonging his years and not graduating he already has a good gpa. But I guess after he graduates he’ll work and then maybe do two more years that was the plan

[Andres77]

So you've already spoken about long term plans?
Does he already have potential work lined up?

[Wise4myage]

I can see why you would think that, and you should for clarification.

[xJayleenx]

I did ask him but he said no and kinda acted like I was being ridiculous.

[Wise4myage]

Then Id say your hunch is incorrect.

[xJayleenx]

But I don’t know I feel like he’s lying he didn’t tell me everything

[Wise4myage]

Then press him for answers.

[xJayleenx]

I did and all he said was that he was unsure career rise and he said that he didn’t know how to explain the rest

[RebeccaBITex2000]

He could be distracted with school, but then I don’t know how many credits he is taking or what he is going to school for. He should be attempting to schedule things. Also I would clarify if his feelings are about school or your relationship.

[Deku2009]

I think it’s stress from other things Jayleen

[Deku2009]

Stop overthinking it