Why do some women think it's attractive to act like a total idiot, can't do anything for herself, and just weak?

[Anonymous]

Okay I am NOT talking about women who might just be a little slower and can't help it. I am not talking about women who just don't know how to do some things, I am not talking about women who are on the weaker side either.

I am speaking about women who INTENTIONALLY do it... Like it's attractive. It's really fucking annoying to be honest with you and not attractive at all to me and most other men. There might be some men who are like ohhhhhhh but not many.

Especially when they need a man to do EVERYTHING for them. I am sorry I don't want a woman where I almost have to literally wipe her ass for her. Who doesn't know how to do anything for herself.

Seriously like if a woman legitimately does not know how to do something I love to help. But when she won't watch you do it and does not want to learn how to do it... I am again not talking about those who find it genuinely difficult I mean willfully that way.

Like a example would be a woman does not know how to fix something on her car... She asks you to do it for her but she refuses to try and learn how to do it herself.

A woman who INTENTIONALLY acts like she can't carry something. I can tell personally I have seen it happen a few times... It is more amusing then anything.

I don't hate them or anything just not my type. What I don't understand is WHY? When it isn't even attractive

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I agree, but could say the exact same for my ex-fiancé.

Man, that kid couldn't navigate a webpage without help and he worked in IT somehow.

His friend described him as having the practical skills of a goldfish and it was so fucking true.

Helplessness isn't attractive to me. Idc who it is.

[Asker]

Yea me neither. I mean if someone just needs help no problem. If someone is struggling with something no problem helping.

It is like this intentional thing though sometimes

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Yeah, learned helplessness is how I've heard it described.

My ex grew up being doted on by his mother, but thinking he was independent. He never even learned to pay his own phone bill, like, holy fuck. He was 30.

[Asker]

Yea learned helplessness is another thing. I kind of have that problem sometimes but it is really out of my control. Too many people shut me down anymore and I just fail at everything I do.

But I HATE IT!!! I don't go around acting like I can't do something just so someone will help me though. I have enough problems of my own I don't need someone constantly asking me for help but won't ever help me with anything lol.

Not to get into a sob story but

[Anonymous]

TV shows have portrayed the whole ‘damsel in distress’ idea as being attractive.

[Asker]

I know and it is NOT at all... They also promote being a real bitch is attractive when it isn't

[driven159]

some men like it if the woman is totally dependent on him it's their thing if they are both happy with I dont care but it's not for me too much drama

[Asker]

You're right but some women are like that all the time. But also nobody likes one sided. I am not going to sit around and literally wipe a woman's ass

[Kissedfrog]

I don’t think we like idiots at least not me

[Asker]

Not most women no. Just a number of them some places. Some guys do some pretty dumb things they think is attractive as well though.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it turns them on?

[Asker]

But why?