Why dont many people who are single-race accept mixed race people? Has anyone else noticed this?

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I am black and i am white. I am both. I was raised as such. I wasn't told to pick a side or made to feel like a leper thankfully my parents loved me like that. But now as an adult i see so many white and black small minded fucktards making racist comments out of nowhere telling me or others that i am not white or black (white racists say im not white and black racists say im not black). You are racist. If i make a comment joking about whites r blacks its not racist. I AM WHITE AND BLACK. So when white get offended I called some whites ghost faced is ridculous. My parent and family are ghost faced. You idiots. So how the fuck are you getting offended at me making fun o my own self? You just show you dont see me as white like yourself. But guess what? I am white. And i am black. So get over it small minded lowlifes.

OpenClose · Accepted Answer

Ugh I've never understood this. If I'm problematic about this, it's more likely in the form of "fetishizing mixed-race people", but I try to keep a check on it.

But as a kid, we would learn about the "Great American Melting Pot" and figured that the whole country would quickly become "mixed" to the point that the term is meaningless. Again, I was still a kid.

I could understand some of the rejection in a native country, like a Latin person never being fully accepted as Chinese. But here in the States, I don't quite get it. Unless you are indigenous to this country, there isn't an "American Race" to be included in or excluded from.

Perhaps it's because racial tensions are still so high, and people want you to "choose a team". Or I could similarly see people in social justice groups "having trouble deciding if you are oppressed or an oppressor". I've gotten this from friends who are white gay men, or black straight men, and generally dissociated from these groups for that reason. Trying to "rank" you on an oppression scale to judge the legitimacy of your issues.

But Ms Marvel actually mentions something to this effect. One of the characters is "White-Pakistani". Her Indian-Pakistani family considers her either too white, or too "past the border". White people think she's too foreign.

But that's the thing, it's not that she is "neither" white nor south-asian, she is BOTH. And I find stuff like that awesome.

Zeus_66 · Accepted Answer

Hang in there. I am a husband/father in a mixed race marriage. All I can say is we've been together for over 20 years and in the beginning, we got a lot of nasty looks. Even heard small stuff from both sides of the family. As time progressed, it has gotten less and less, but it still occassionally happens.

Somehow though, I get more crap from her side of the family now than I did in the beginning, and I am close to them. I pay no mind.

As for our kids, they get comments at school about not being enough of a certain side, even though it's interesting the kids say that because my kids aren't just mixed with another race, but they still have family directly related to them living in the country my wife's family is from. So my kids are much more connected to their roots than the kids they go to school with. They understand that people will be who they are, not understand, and say stuff. So far, we've been able to keep it under control. Hopefully that is because my wife and I work hard to raise our children well.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure why people are like that to be honest. It isn't much of a thing where I am from. Sure, it exists but not to the level of some other countries that I hear about. All I can say is I have zero issues with it. I am Indian and currently engaged to an Australian man.

None of my friends, family or anyone else we are around have an issue with the fact that we are from different races/countries. My family welcomed him with open arms because he is a good guy and treats me right. His family is no different.

We plan on having children that will of course be of mixed ethnicities. Everyone knows it and not a single person in our lives takes any sort of issue with that. For those that do, they are just racists. They usually don't even have a legit reason to be racist. It is quite sad and pathetic line of thinking.

Stars12122 · Accepted Answer

I'm biracial (white/indigenous) and I've noticed this too. I feel like in previous decades it wasn't as pronounced as it is today. All the recent racial fervor has actually made it worse for me. Now I have whites asking what I am (I look ambiguous) and other ethic groups don't consider me a "person of color." It feels like I don't belong with any group. I have more and more biracial friends and it's honestly where I feel most comfortable because we all see our heritage is not our defining quality.

(On another note, the ghost thing had me confused. I don't know any whites that call each other that and I would get mad if something called me that too. It sounds like a racial slurr like cracker)

soudoit · Answer

Its not racism when Blacks say that, and why? It's programming from the brutal history, and the wedge forced between light and dark blacks... There are people of BOTH sides of that spectrum that share both blame and shame.. I have a Bi-racial daughter, and I shudder to think how she's being treated (I'm in the States, and she is in Canada). However, there's a division that isn't talked about and is inflicting even more trauma on this type of subject.
You have the best of BOTH worlds, and yet don't know which accepts more. Black and White BOTH accepts, and the ones that don't, already fear you... You are the progressive change, and visual proof that we're ALL the same. So, please stop looking at the negative (as it'll ALWAYS distract you from the actual goal)... Mixed race people will dominate the population in the next 30 years... And my daughter will be a vital part in that. Keep your head up and your heart open... And THIS is coming from a mixed Black Man...
Power to the People!!

7barbieringz · Answer

I'm not mixed, but I'm light skinned black and I look mixed. Everyone that I meet asks me if I'm mixed.

I know what your talking about.

I remember when I was in middle school I said the n-word and a black kid told me I wasn't allowed to say it cuz I'm not black enough. In another instance I had a white friend make some racist comments about black people, and they were shocked when I said something about it.

But there's a video on YouTube by Oprah Winfrey called "for light girls" and it really helped me unapologetically accept myself. I highly suggest it for mixed and light skin women.

__MisterGoneShiner__ · Answer

I am just white, OK? No racism intended.
I am a white and my girlfriend is a Half-Blood like half black, half mexican. And... Her mom does not approve our relationship. Saying that i can't be with Leah because i am white

So yeah... It took my attention, alright.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Because no one is "single" race.

Race does not exist. If you want to be multicultural good, because a lot folks are multicultural. Being "White" American is a cultural statement. . . so is being African-American. If you lay claim to both histories and heritages, great. . . but stop pretending that you are a mixture of two races. What the fuck is that supposed to even mean? Culture is about group identity. I am African-American/"Black" because "Black" folks except me as being "Black". A person is "White" American. . . because other "White" people accept them as being "White".

And it is just that simple.

jshm2 · Answer

You're half caste. and you talk as if you're a "50/50" mix and a representative of both. When in fact you are representative of neither. You are not able to talk of either as you will not experience either. To the White side you'll be a Black girl they have to treat differently. To the Black side you'll be a White girl they have to treat differently.

Sure your parents are assholes for putting you through it out of their arrogance and stupidity. But you've just got to live with it and move on. Never talk of race and lineage as you'll always get embarrassed and owned.

Instead get yourself a career and occupation.

TransAm85 · Answer

My older brother is mixed. My mom's first husband was Mexican. I can say that's one thing my mom did teach me right, despite her narcissistic ways. She taught my brothers and I to give everyone a chance. No matter ur color, what u like to wear, what food u eat, if u smoke, drink, w/e ur choice of happiness is.. we are all humans and can be friends.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

In Hawaii, 75% of marriages are inter-racial, inter-cultural or inter-religious. If a possible outcome of an inter-racial marriage is Halle Barry, we should be willing to take that risk.

With racist comments in this day and age, I have come to the unfortunate conclusion that, if you populate a planet with clones, they will find reasons to divide themselves into groups and hate each other.

A cab driver in Atlanta once told me the black and white drivers don’t get along. The black American don’t get along with the Africans. The Nigerians, Ethiopians and Eritreans don’t get along.

SlangSlayer · Answer

Black women won't accept you because they see u as a threat.

Whether there own insecurity because your white mom got the attention from a black man.

White people just now saying mixed or coloured, Bi-racial. But they'll still call u black of nobody black is around.

Also some people just say what they normally see. Bi-racial people were black until About 5-7 year ago when the black female YouTuber tried to exclude I'll from black side. Something about colorism and featurism

I rarely see black men complain about bi-racial children or adults. At best well do light skin drake jokes.

sunflower00 · Answer

Unfortunately there are still a lot of racist people in the world. I’m sorry you have experienced this <3

Adam1978 · Answer

Never noticed this at all. People usually accept people independent of the appearance or they are low lifes and it really doesn't matter how you look they will find a way to dislike you. So I don't think clearly mixed people have it harder then others.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

That is just something we have to deal with. There are people who only accept one or the other and won't say you are x because of x reason.

I have mainly gotten more flak from the black community than white though. Usually been hit with "light skinned" "whitest black guy" and in extreme cases "half-n*gger"

JessicaEarl · Answer

Everyone loves blaming white people all the race problems. The truth is, all peoples have issues accepting those outside of what they see as normal. There is really no such thing as half white and half black. We aren’t different species. There is only someone with some ancestors from caucasians and others from Africans. You’re not half or less of anything. Anyone that says otherwise is just insecure

DermalPunch · Answer

The mixed race struggle is real. Just here to validate.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I've honestly never noticed this at all. I don't know where so many multi racial people have these experiences of not being accepted, because it just hasn't lined up with any of my experiences. I'm multiracial myself, mostly white, but still; and I've never once had a problem.

sheikalana · Answer

I feel the same. I got so pissed off when a friend told me he considers me white.

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't care what your race is, so long as you're a decent person. In fact, I think mixed race women are among the most gorgeous women on the planet.

Staximus · Answer

Don't give idiots power over you by letting them get you rattled. Don't get suckered into a battle of stupidity with an idiot. They will beat you with experience. The best thing to do is not even engage them. Idiots are black holes in outer space or whirlpools. The closer you are, the more you get pulled in. The closer you are to an idiot, the more you are affected by their stupidity.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

I’ve never really noticed it unless it’s spoken about in media, as I’m so white-passing that my latino heritage is questioned. Doesn’t help that my mom and grandparents grew up in a time where total assimiliation was highly “encouraged” and we didn’t live close enough to her side of the family for us to visit often, so I wasn’t brought up in the culture. I did at least take Chicano-Latino studies in college to make up for it though.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Maybe you live in La or NYC or something like that where its very liberal? I live in a very conservative place and never hear much about race and dating with the exception of the occasional white girl who has like 5 black boyfriends at once and says its her culture because weed and rap music. Smh. Thats the only racist shit im aware of tbh. I've dated black and white and mixed girls over the years and its never been a topic of conversation that there was anything weird about it.

driven159 · Answer

It's really funny that if people look at their family background that would find out how mixed race they really are, and I feel in 1000 years we will all be mixed and there will be no pure breed humans, so you are just ahead of your time and that they are jealous of your beauty

Why dont many people who are single-race accept mixed race people? Has anyone else noticed this?

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