Guys: why would a guy be gazing but acts distant?

[Anonymous]

So there is a guy that I notice is always gazing/looking me from afar. My coach put me in the same group to practice with him today. I thought it would be a great opportunity to approach him, so I smiled and waved at him but he ignored me or didn’t see me 😔 Then while he was shooting the balls, i kept passing him back the balls to his side of the field and instead of saying “thank you” he would turn his back just not to see me. At that moment I gave up, I turned and there he was again…gazing at me. Why? Why does he act distant but keeps looking at me?

[Anonymous]

A guy gazing or looking at you doesn't mean he wants anything more. If he did, he would have made a move. I remember this new girl joined at work and I thought she was attractive and found myself gazing at her. But I was just admiring her. Later she started hanging around near me, approaching me and eventually asked for my number... but I wasn't looking for anything more, just thought she was attractive.

[TwinFace]

Extremely shy around u. Afraid he will stumble or crack his voice. Talk to him with basics get to know questions.

[ElementoP]

I can't say for sure, but some guys are really afraid of rejection. Maybe he just thinks your cute but has his reasons to not go after you, or maybe he doesn't see you throwing the ball to him as "come fuck me".
If he's interested in you, maybe he's waiting until he knows he has a chance. Go up to him and say "Hey you're pretty cute". If he doesn't want you, he'll say "Thanks, but...". If he does want you, you'll make his dream come true and that will start something.

I know you're probably thinking "No way I'm doing that. Scary!!!", but c'mon. Live a little. Either way you'll make his day

[Makeushiver]

Lack of confidence. Guys turn into idiot children from about age 5- to age 22 and need simple instructions, short sentences, etc. It's likely that he is looking at you and thinking, "she is so hot I need to get the will up and just ask her out, what's the worst that could happen, she say's no?" If it's in a siyuation where he and you are always sitting in or close to same place (like study hall you could fry all of his circuitry by wearing a skirt and going commando. You would blow his mind if you flashed him bare skin instead of panties. There are less provocative ways (though that would certainly be my favorite= I've also had it done to me a few times and can attest to the effect" but in any case you are the grown up in this relationship. Ask him, is that a 1/2 empty pack of Rolaids in your pocket or are you happy to see me.

[spartan55]

You are seriously overthinking, he isn't acting like anything. You waved at him while he was shooting during a drill? Come on, work on your timing girl!

[Asker]

No I didn’t, I waved at him before training. I tried getting his attention or at least eye contact when passing him back the balls. Even then he kept acting indifferent…🤷🏼‍♀️

[spartan55]

Whatever, just walk up to him and say hello.

[Yotth]

He must have liked you but he would be afraid to say, once you try and see the boys on whom you crush, even think about them, but they are afraid to say it and when they get any notice, they get nervous.

[CarolinaJones]

How often do they gaze? They sound like a jerk, they're probably too confused on the activity itself

[Asker]

Often like every 10 mins I turn and see him gazing. When he sees that I notice, he turns away.

[Wavvygurl]

I wouldn’t read too much into the gaze. He sounds like a complete AHole. But if you want to gauge him, treat him the way he treats you and see if he’ll change his tune.

[YHL6965]

Maybe he is just not interested in you and just looks at your physical attributes. He does not sound like a very nice guy based on your description.

[Sarahplus2]

Chit chat with him if you can but if he keeps acting distant don't go out of your way.

[AimeeKyle]

He likes you but is chicken / insecure about interacting with you and/or he feels you are out of his league.

[Storm8756]

Maybe he thinks you’re out of his league and doesn’t want the pain of rejection. If you want him to ask, boost his confidence.

[Charliefretz329]

He’s married but fantasizing

[Jltakk]

You could ask him. He's just shy.

[Smegskull]

Gazing at a ferrari doesn't mean I want to buy it.

[abinavzene022]

Maybe he likes you but is too shy to talk

[Bug99]

He likes you but he's also shy..

[RuthlessAggression]

nothing

[Anonymous]

He's a perv?