Husband says he prefers me without makeup?

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I (23) am pretty average looking so I like to wear a little makeup every day because I enjoy it and it makes me feel more awake/confident. My husband (24) says I look better without it and that his feelings are hurt that I wear it every day around him and don’t let him come in the bathroom while I’m getting ready etc. because I don’t want him to see me looking shitty lol. I think it’s important to take care of yourself in a long term relationship and wish he would see it as a sign of respect that I want to look nice for him. More importantly, it makes me feel good. I get lots of compliments on my makeup when I’m out so I know he’s not complaining because it looks bad or something. So the only reason I can think that he would say this is because he’s trying to get me to a place where I stop taking care of myself and become less confident, more isolated, and totally reliant on him for validation. Maybe if I feel bad about myself he thinks I’m more likely to stick around? Which is silly because I’m a loyal person. I don't know. The whole thing seems like a narcissistic strategy to me. I understand that guys often don’t like a ton of heavy makeup but my makeup is very natural and light and I know I look better with it.

Robert159 · Accepted Answer

Not trying to take sides but my wife is the same way and I'm the same way so I understand your situation some I tell my wife she doesn't need makeup to look pretty she has a natural beauty to her but she can't see it not trying to be rude but it kinda sounds like you're exactly the same in that manner I don't care if she wears it I just prefer she don't that's my opinion so I said to her just don't look like a rodeo clown and don't wear it every day so I can see your natural beauty it may not be a control situation he may just prefer you natural instead so just sit down and ask him why he doesn't want you wearing makeup you might be surprised by the answer or you will find out now that it's a bad situation before it's terrible and hard to get out of it I hope that's not it but if he says you're beautiful without it and he can't keep his hands of of you you know he's being honest in his opinion good luck

DoctorSex · Accepted Answer

Well that escalated quickly..

I think the conclusion you jumped to was a tad bit naive. I also believe his devaluation of the role makeup plays in female conformity is naive. So you're both being naive. The best cure for nativity is by having a mature conversation.

Understand from his point of view and the rest of the male population, we don't wear makeup. (99% of us). And it doesn't affect our confidence.

I think quite the opposite, your husband may be trying to get you to attain true confidence in your appearance which relies on healthy nutrition as opposed to deception (in our eyes).

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

CarolinaJones · Accepted Answer

Girl, please don't degrade yourself! You are beautiful both on the outside and inside, your husband sees your worth and sees you beautiful with and without makeup. Guys like seeing natural beauty more since to them if makeup isn't applied properly looks like "big blobs of goop all over their face" (Reddit users), if you feel low-esteemed without makeup when going out in public then try using as little amount of makeup as possible but try using a more "natural look." Men usually believe too much makeup makes you look unrealistic as if everything was done with "plastic surgery" like those models who appear on tv or Instagram.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

It is extremely unhealthy for you to not like letting him see you while you're putting on makeup, or when you don't have makeup. Most men like the real, actual face of their woman. Give it to him, sometimes. I'm not saying never wear makeup. But you can't say that you are "taking care of yourself" for the betterment of the relationship, while at the same time withholding what your husband actually wants, which makes it counterproductive. And putting on makeup doesn't really have anything to do with "taking care of yourself" anyway.

HotPinkDominatrxSlut · Answer

I never wear any makeup. I'm completely all natural. No fake anything. I' m 4'11" and 88 lbs. and have natural pure platinum blonde super shiny very healthy hair longer than I am tall the lightest brightest bluest eyes natural large tits natural perfect body natural beautiful face and beautiful smile. Men of all races including my very dark sexy black husband always tell me I'm by far the most beautiful and feminine girl they've ever seen and love that I'm completely all natural and don't wear any makeup.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Why on Earth is THAT the first place your mind goes when your husband says he prefers to see the woman he married in her natural state?

panamared1 · Answer

Most girls wear far too much, better to not use any

Bellona · Answer

wear what ever makes you happy

Luopio27 · Answer

Sounds like a man that likes the natural beauty.

Hawaiikai · Answer

Be grateful he told you that

Danny_dan92 · Answer

He’s complimenting you

Iron_Man · Answer

What will you do?

MammaSoni87 · Answer

I never wear any makeup

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