This guy is my brother’s friend, he’s 19, I’m 20. He is a bit awkward and he gets some attention from girls but not a huge amount. He likes to pretend he gets more action than he does. I’m quite a pretty girl but I turn a lot of guys down. I don’t feel comfortable around most people
In person, we get on well and I feel a lot of chemistry with him. We have a lot in common and I think our conversations are more intimate than just friends. We’re sweet to each other and he likes to tease me. Last year (when I first met him), I decided to tell him that I liked him. He said that he couldn’t “do that to my brother” but never said how he actually felt about me. I was okay with him not wanting a ‘relationship’ (his words) but I still wanted to get to know him
Problem is, we go to universities in different countries and for the past year, I’ve barely seen him. He sometimes respond to things and acts friendly with me over text but he will watch all of my stories and still ignore me for 2 weeks straight. We were supposed to be seeing each other at Christmas but after that fell through because of Covid, I told him I couldn’t take the hot and cold texting anymore and that I’d be removing him on social media. He never said anything to me about it. After I removed him, he went to a mutual friend and said he was confused. When I briefly added him back, he acted like nothing happened. I removed him again until I saw him a few times last month
I was hoping I wouldn’t but I still like him. I avoided him at first but he made an effort to talk to me so I slowly opened up again. I texted him after I went away to ask if he would want to talk on the phone but he avoided that and asked me about something else
He now watches all my stories and responds to things with one line texts. It feels like he watches me from a distance. I don't know if it’s worth asking him to meet when I come back in a few weeks. My mother says to give him time but if he liked me then why wouldn’t he just talk to me