Why do married men look at sexually explicit photos of other women?

[Anonymous]

My husband does it especially on his social media account as well as following women who have onlyfans accounts and it really hurts. He says he loves me but he looks at these photos and also wants to go to strip clubs. It makes me feel like a worthless piece of trash. He doesn't feel bad about what he does or apologize just screams at me that I am immature. He never calls me hot, he just calls me "pretty lady" 😡😡😡😡😡😡

[Anonymous]

Well first of all if he’s screaming at you then I’d consider leaving. In regards to why we look at other women, because there’s a lot of other hot women out there. You’ll never understand that unless some how you can be a male for a day. There’s things women do that I don’t understand. I don’t try to either because most of you don’t even understand each other. A lot of you can’t even tolerate each other. Yes a man can still love you even if he’s looking at things like that. It’s a sexual thing, most likely not feeling based as far as man saying I’d love to date her, give her flowers, make her feel special, etc. Its just, I want to phuk her. No we’re not raised like that either. My uncles never told me sexualize women, neither did my dad or step dad. I love how women think they know the real reason why us men do what we do. Imagine if I said well a real woman would do this. Men never in my 44 years have I ever heard a man say that. But I sure as hell have heard women say that. I guess maybe they were men at one time I don’t know.

[Shadowrunneruk]

I'm sorry this situation is making you feel awful about yourself.

Coming from a guy, it's really difficult to navigate the world without Onlyfans and models on Instagram being shoved in your face- and when you do interact with such things you're then demonised as a pervert or that you're an awful person (which may be one reason why he snaps at you- he's sensitive about it). Try sitting him down and calmly asking why he views this rather than you, and is there anything you can do to help him spark up passion in your relationship. Hopefully it can also lead to some discourse where you can also explain how you feel about the situation- he may not realise how much it hurts you (even if you've already told him it does).

More brutally, he's probably just bored, and whilst still loves you probably doesn't find you sexually attractive (this EXACT situation happened to me with a girlfriend so I know your pain). That's another reason why sitting him down and having a mature discourse about it may really help.

[Anonymous]

This is a social problem, that's how a lot of men were raised to be. I've noticed my uncle, my dad, other older men I know, looking at younger women in a specific way and they don't even care if they're being obvious, because they were never taught not to do it, many were actually told to do so. There's no way to change that, they see nothing bad in what they're doing.

[Trina581]

Stop being a "pretty lady " in bed and fuck his brains out before one of these hot strippers do it for u. Fuck one with him. Take advantage of it. Or your marriage won't last.

[RolandCuthbert]

You need to communicate to your husband and let him know how much this bothers you.

I don't think men really understand. There isn't a woman on this planet who doesn't want men to think she is hot and sexy.

It took me a long time to wrap my head around it. We men, compartmentalize. We think we should have one woman to lust over. . . and another to just be a wife. . . then another to be a friend, etc.

We don't seem to get women can to be all of that. They want all of that in a relationship.

[crossdressingrihno]

Men are horny creatures. We can fuck and not even remember her face the next day. Guys also like to masturbate. Sometimes a guy needs to masturbate instead of have sex. His pornography ultimately is like a screwdriver. He uses it to complete a task and puts it away when he doesn’t need it. I as a man can barely understand the concept of being upset over porn. However he probably shouldn’t yell at you.


The only solutions I have are this
#1 stop paying attention to his porn and masturbation
#2 start understanding what masturbation is like for men Because maybe when you see how Impersonal it is maybe you’ll feel better.
#3 just accept it, now I know this one may be super difficult but ultimately it’s one of the options I see
#4 break up, if you can’t handle it maybe single life is better because the likelihood of a man going cold turkey on porn is insanely slim

[20yearsolder]

Well your husband's a little bit of an asshole and you're extremely insecure. When he comes home from the strip club or sitting in front of his computer looking at hot chicks. Does he come and have sex with you? If he does, at least he's not having extramarital sex with others. He brings his horniness home to you

[MountAverage]

Personally I see nothing wrong with looking at and masturbating to things online while in a relationship. I would never be with a woman who sees a problem with her partner looking at porn and such. I would also never have a problem with my partner doing the same.
In your specific case though, it sounds very unhealthy. You need to talk to him.

[BarryLiverstone]

Him choosing to scream doesn’t sound healthy. But he has eyes, should he lie and never look at someone else? He must find you attractive as he’s married to you right?

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

Why does porn exist, why does onlyfans exist

It's all about money. People making money, off of sex appeal

[In_Trance]

Toxic femininity

[Googlemyahoo]

Start doing same to him

[Danny_dan92]

Those men, want extra pussy

[Batmanismydaddy]

Cause they are horny

[Anonymous]

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