Does he like me as more than a friend?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I've been friends with this guy for a couple of months now and I developed a crush on him pretty recently. We all went out drinking one night (but I was sober) and for the whole night, everyone was asking if we were dating because of how we were acting. At the end of the night, I take him home, and I tell him I have a crush on him. He told me he doesn't reciprocate, but he asked me to stay the night in his bed. We ended up cuddling the whole night but in the morning he said he isn't physically or emotionally attracted to me and doesn't see me as more than a friend. But then why even invite me to stay the night in the first place and cuddle me? I know he was drunk, but even if I was drunk I wouldn't let someone sleep in my bed if I didn't like them on some level.

[SassyAussieAddy]

He may be giving you mixed signals but for the moment he's stated he doesn't want anything more than being a friend. Alcohol was a factor and everyone is different when drunj. He may regret his choice to let you stay over in his bed but he didn't make a sexual advance either. For now you probably have to let it go.

[Asker]

Yeah, I agree. He did say that he doesn't feel anything right now, but he said that might change in the future. It's just so strange because all our friends thought he liked me

[Guy13]

He wanted company and you had sec that would have been a plus. He may have been drunk but this is an attitude most guys possess. He does not like you more than friend or side piece in my view.

[Asker]

I do agree that he probably just wanted company. However, we did spend all night together at a party. It was a last-minute decision for him to ask me to stay over. And I'm just not sure I buy the whole "he was drunk" thing. He's been drunk around me before and has never been that way with me

[Guy13]

Okay but if I’m focused on getting you to bed because of relationship then I’m doing other stuff in the week. Flowers for your bedroom/dorm room etc. last minute decisions are usually out of need and circumstances. Your call ‼️

[Asker]

Yeah I agree. Even though he's always doing nice things for me like hanging up my jacket, covering me with a blanket if I'm cold, and filling up my car with petrol, etc. These are things my other guy friends don't do. He did say that he would never have sex with me, that's why him asking me to stay the night has confused me

[Guy13]

Your instincts….
Err on side of Conservative..,
This is my tendency. Not everyone is that way.

[spartan55]

Just because that's what you would have done DOES NOT mean that's what he would do. You girls do this a lot and it's very annoying. Guys don't think the same way.

[Asker]

So you're saying he definitely doesn't like me and that it was just a drunk decision that doesn't mean anything?

[spartan55]

He likes you AS A FRIEND. He was pretty clear on that. Him having you stay in the same bed was an impulsive drunken decision, nothing more. See if he asks you to do that again when you are both stone cold sober. There's no way he will.

[Anonymous]

He probably does. Why don't you ask him?

[Asker]

I did, and he says he doesn't see me as more than a friend. I'm not sure I even believe him though. He's always doing nice things for me like hanging up my jacket, covering me with a blanket if I'm cold, and filling up my car with petrol, etc. These are things my other guy friends don't do

[spartan55]

@asker what possible reason would he have for not being honest about that? Just because your other guy friends don't do those things is irrelevant.

[Asker]

@spartan55 It's just mixed signals at the moment but I guess I should just let it go