Friends for 22 years - does he like me as more than a friend?

Question

Met a guy when we both lived abroad and went to university. We both moved back to our own countries he lives in Holland. Over the years we have always been in contact. He has initiated contact more than me I would say and always wanted me to go visit etc.. in the meantime I met someone snd married and had a child, he did the same.. we always talked on the phone etc and he did tell me he had told his then wife he had had feelings for me. Anyway fast forward and we are both divorced and have kids the same age … he came over to stay with his daughter recently and we had a great time. He was very affectionate (initiating hugs) , always complimenting me , his daughter said she adored me. When they left he called to say they were missing me etc and when he left he hugged me and kissed my neck. (Did say he had a newish girlfriend by the way) . Then called to say they can’t wait to come over again and it has to be soon. Is this just friendship or are there other signals? Thanks

_Maya_ · Answer

So I would forget the whole 22 years thing because I am only going to assume that much of that was spent married for the both of you. I don't find the duration important. Not nearly as important as what is happening in the now. It sounds to me like he has some more the friends feelings for you. I am only going off what you wrote about your time together recently. I think there are some strong indications that he would like to be more. I think there are two problems though. One is I am guessing there is still considerable distance between the two of you and the second is that he has a girlfriend. Those are both big problems.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Give him a sign that his romantic advances would be welcomed and you will quickly see how he feels.

Anonymous · Answer

Shouldn't you know that by now?

Friends for 22 years - does he like me as more than a friend?

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.