Friends for 22 years - does he like me as more than a friend?

[Anonymous]

Met a guy when we both lived abroad and went to university. We both moved back to our own countries he lives in Holland. Over the years we have always been in contact. He has initiated contact more than me I would say and always wanted me to go visit etc.. in the meantime I met someone snd married and had a child, he did the same.. we always talked on the phone etc and he did tell me he had told his then wife he had had feelings for me. Anyway fast forward and we are both divorced and have kids the same age … he came over to stay with his daughter recently and we had a great time. He was very affectionate (initiating hugs) , always complimenting me , his daughter said she adored me. When they left he called to say they were missing me etc and when he left he hugged me and kissed my neck. (Did say he had a newish girlfriend by the way) . Then called to say they can’t wait to come over again and it has to be soon. Is this just friendship or are there other signals? Thanks

[_Maya_]

So I would forget the whole 22 years thing because I am only going to assume that much of that was spent married for the both of you. I don't find the duration important. Not nearly as important as what is happening in the now. It sounds to me like he has some more the friends feelings for you. I am only going off what you wrote about your time together recently. I think there are some strong indications that he would like to be more. I think there are two problems though. One is I am guessing there is still considerable distance between the two of you and the second is that he has a girlfriend. Those are both big problems.

[OlderAndWiser]

Give him a sign that his romantic advances would be welcomed and you will quickly see how he feels.

[Anonymous]

Shouldn't you know that by now?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

You've been friends for 22 years.

[Asker]

So just friends yeah? Ok 👍 just wondering if feelings can change or if he just sees me as a friend now as I know he had feelings before …

[Opinion Owner]

Sure, feelings can change.

[Asker]

So what do I do? Just leave it until we next meet up? I’m reading the signs wrong that he thinks of me as more than a friend? Do guys keep in touch with women they don’t actually fancy?
Thanks appreciate your feedback

[Opinion Owner]

Make a bold move the next time you see him.

[Asker]

Ok 👍 I did text him I missed him and he texted straight back and said me too… then he called me straightaway
That was quite bold of me lol 😂