Does losing weight help you get more friends?

[Anonymous]

I am 22 years old and I am a bit chubby (5'6 160 lbs).

I believe that I have no friends because of my appearance, or

more specifically, my weight.

I attend college currently and I spend most of my time there alone. I am really shy and do not feel like attending clubs/organizations, either.

I never bother to approach people because I feel as if I might bother them, and I feel too desperate.

Do you think it will be easier for me to make some friends if I were thin?

Are most people superficial when it comes to initially approaching people for friendship, even if it is only for friendship?

Updates

+1 y

if any of you thinks that appearance plays a huge role in making friends initially, especially in college, please let me hear your opinions!

[Anonymous]

I know lots of overweight people with tons of friends, even those who are much, much heavier than you are. It's not a weight thing. You need to work on beating your social anxiety. The best way to do it is to practice. Talk to people like food servers and cashiers, then work towards chatting with people about class, then start approaching people who have similar interests as you in a group or club. Read Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends & Influence People." Good book.

[leximarie]

well in my psychology class today we began our unit or prejudice and I learned that people tend to be the most prejudice concerning weight, go figure! I thought for sure it would be race or gender even class or heterosexuality/homosexuality but I was wrong. study shows that in our society the4 largest factor is in fact a persons weight, make what you want of it but I couldn't believe it. based on this maybe there is a correlation

[leximarie]

that said I don't think people would not be friends with you or would stop being friends with you because of your weight unless they are supremely shallow or you talk about it incessantly ay randomguy949 mentioned

[WoodWizzard87]

The keyword here is "shy". If your self conscious about yourself, you'll be less likely to open up to complete strangers. If you study a lot, find a group of classmates to study with. It's not that hard now since most colleges have the electronic blackboard for classes. People will like you because of your personality, not your body weight.

[randomguy949]

having a better self esteem will make a bigger difference than losing weight. Even if your skinny but like to talk about it frequently people will be less likely to be your friend.

[Anonymous]

No, but you'd be more confident about yourself which would bring out your personality. Personality matters, not your weight or looks. Superficial people can GTFO of your life.

[Asker]

almost everybody is superficial, though

[Opinion Owner]

then you're meeting the wrong kinds of people.

[Cuddle_Muffin]

I am the same height and practically the same weight as you.

people never call me fat.

[Anonymous]

Loosing weight helps you gain confidence, confidence helps you make friends but yeah I think its easier for thin people to make friends.