Why would a guy say he is unsure of what he wants even when he was the first one to be interested and pursue me? He was so intimidated and shy?

[Anonymous]

He isn’t emotionally attracted to me

Vote A

He isn’t physically attracted to me

Vote B

[cryscrys1]

I am sorry I don't know if you love him but I think 99.9% guaranteed he changed his mind..! Guys say yes to everyone firstly that’s part of their game but since you mentioned if being serious he realized he doesn’t see you as a wifey.. or the one ! I mean that’s what being serious is about right getting married. Don’t believe him saying he is unsure blah blah blah he doesn’t want what he wants blah blah blah. I mean now that you asked to be serious he doesn’t know what he wants. What a joke. He wants a slap to his face with a cheesecake and a spoon of shit ~ say this if he says again he doesn’t know what he wants.


I’m sorry if you are hurt feeling sad. Please find someone who says - I know what I want I want to marry you etc. Don’t waste your time with him.

[jennifer_bloom]

Somebody who dates you for your status is interested in you but that does not mean they are in love with you, until the bonding happens in the heart, you are just a cool video game or trophy to him.

[FilmGuy93]

He's processing through his emotions. Just because a guy approaches you doesn't mean he automatically knows he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

[Tekkasonic]

Guys, typically young, are more in the moment than the future. most time we act on an emotion or feeling unsure why but we know it "felt right".

[FilmGuy93]

@Tekkasonic Yes! Very well said.

[Asker]

So he’s basically JUST physically attracted?

[Tekkasonic]

not just physical, its both but he hasn't figured it out yet. Like I said guys are dumb sometime and we see things surface level. best advice is to just talk with him, and help him figure it out, but don't guide him to a conclusion you want.

[FilmGuy93]

@Tekkasonic @Asker Tek is spot on! Your date is trying to figure things out right now, and that's the best answer anyone can give you. His attraction is still being defined.

[jshm2]

He's just being an insecure dickhead trying to make you take the lead.

[MCheetah]

He wants to SMASH (have sex) but doesn't want to date you.

[AndrésC64]

Maybe he said that he's unsure because he's unsure. 🤦🏼‍♂️

[DermalPunch]

Doesn't want you enough to mmit. Just because à man is attracted, Doesn't mean he wants a relationship.

[DermalPunch]

Commit.

[Anonymous]

he's been hurt by you emotionally abused and mentally abused by you

[capitulo_de_su_libro]

Because they change, you're valuable to them as long as they can't have you. Once they know you love them, the magic fades.

[BarryLiverstone]

Because he wanted you casually

[Asker]

Hmmm I feel that sounds like he wanted me temporarily because he finds me pretty… but that’s it? He doesn’t really see a future?

[BarryLiverstone]

How could he see a future until he really knows you and feels like you are the one? Yes it’s because you attracted him

[Jamie05rhs]

Need more information, please.

[Asker]

Well he pursued me for three months and then when I asked why he was chasing me and that I wanted something serious if we were to date, he told me he wasn’t ready…… and he was unsure of what he wanted in life etc

[Jamie05rhs]

In what ways did he pursue you?

[msc545]

ask him, not us.

[Anonymous]

I love how we all voted A