I intentionally don’t acknowledge guys I like and keep a resting bitch face?

[Anonymous]

I’m an incredibly anxious person with a resting bitch face but I consciously choose to not fix it because I think if people know I think positively of them they’ll make fun of me, feel bad about me, and it’ll inflate their ego. I’ll don’t acknowledge the presence of guys I like because I refuse to look like a dumbass. It genuinely freaks me out that a guy i like he could respond negatively and I’d rather look like a raging bitch because otherwise I’d lose my shit if he thought u liked him before I knew he liked me. (Bad news is I don’t like the guys that like me and I have to approach my type more nerdy logical introvert men) How do I stop doing this?

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I also do this just generally when I go new places or walk around for the same reason which I feel hinders me from making friends because I hate going up to people. Advice on that would also be very appreciated!

[Pot8o]

My take on it is that you have your guard up around people you like and/or don't know, and what you need to learn to do is lower that guard and be yourself more. To accept that some people may not like you and others will, and that's okay.

I would compare it to someone who is scared of flying, so just the thought of flying makes them tense up.

I think perhaps certain forms of mind-body therapies could help, or maybe hypnosis.

I am very similar to you in that I suffer from the same problem, pretty much. I would recommend really addressing it, because I have waited way too long and wasted many years, don't do that.

What may also help is practicing prolonged eye contact, because that forces you to be very exposed in front of another person. You can't really hide when you're staring someone in the eyes.

Last option is simply exposure therapy, i. e. facing your fear and for example showing a guy that you like him.

[MrCommodore]

I think you just lack confidence and fear rejection/embarrassment, most people experience this to varying levels.

[Asker]

But how do I fix it?

[Asker]

It’s actively ruining my chances of making new friends and talking to guys

[MrCommodore]

I was the same in my late teens and early 20's, feared rejection and was all about self preservation. It really held me back romantically.

I joined a MMA club back then, and as I began to get really fit, my confidence grew too, and I started to feel confident in myself and my professional achievements in a modest/humble way, and I found it easier to talk to girls and be myself and women seemed to prefer this.

[MrCommodore]

I would suggest you review your current approach, try to understand what isn't working and then try a new approach that is better suited to you and your personality. Always play to your own strengths

[EmmaMary]

Just give up, join a Convent and become a Nun... Simples!

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHGirl.

[Anonymous]

you know what hurts when the woman i love is willing to tell men who she's known for 4 to 6 months that she loves them but the guy (me) who she's known for YEARS she won't say that to. that's really fucked up especially when i been head over heels in love with her. she rather tell complete strangers she loves them then me the guy she's known for years

[Anonymous]

If you voluntarily keep the resting bitch face you need to get used to be treated like a bitch. You shall demonstrate you're not a bitch, how can you do it if you want to be seen as a bitch?