What to do with a guy that can't take 'no' as an answer?

[Anonymous]

I attended a class with him 2 years ago in college for a month and didn't know him there. However, he probably knew me. He has also been a student of the school where one of my parents worked as the principal. So he claims to have known me as his High school principal's daughter for a long period of time.

The first time we talked to each other was the day he messaged me in Instagram to tell me that as he wanted a girlfriend and did not have any criterias, I could be his girlfriend. He also added that he didn't find me to be that great and physically attractive but he would do that anyways since nobody was giving him attention at that point. I was offended and turned him down.

He messaged me three days later asking whether my feelings for him had changed. I turned him down that very day once again and said multiple times that I was not interested in him even a bit.

But he didn't give up. I blocked him from many places but he still creates newer profiles, and comes back with the same agenda.

The last time I received "be my girlfriend" text from him was today. It's the 14th time this month. No matter how much I keep on saying "I am never going to like you /my no means no", he doesn't seem to pay much importance to that. I have also heard that he is spreading the rumor that I have said yes to him and he is actually dating me.

As a hardcore introvert, I am not very good at handling such things.

What should I do?

[SueShe]

The best reply to that kind of harassment is to ignore him and not to answer him back on any social media.

If you can, avoid to talk to him on a face-to-face basis and ignore him totally. With time, he will get the message and move to another victim. By replying to him, you only indicate that he found a person to talk to because that is what he wants and needs. By ignoring him, you let him understand that he is annoying you and that his attempts are not fruitful.

Don't give him a chance to let him bother you. The more you react, the longer he will harass you. Good luck.

[Asker]

You are right. I am very short-tempered and as I am introverted and respect people, people have always considered me to be 'reserved', and respected my boundaries. So, I was mad to see a guy comment such dumb things about me. Besides, whenever I didn't reply, he texted, "so, silence means yes, isn't it?"

Thanks for the detailed advice though. I really appreciate it.

[Blackcupcake]

insist on a no, involve friends or family if needed

[Asker]

I have probably sent the text "my no means no" for a hundred times. So, I told my mother the story and she decided that she would talk to his parents since I live far away from my home for my higher studies and he is constantly telling me that he would come to this place and make me go out with him. My country is not really safe for women. Therefore, I can't take the risk.

[Blackcupcake]

do you have any guy friends?

[Asker]

No. All my friends are girls. I had two guy friends in the past but as I realised that they didn't want to be 'just friends' with me (or any girl), I cut them out of my life.

[Blackcupcake]

what about a dad? a brother?

[Asker]

Yes. I have both. My father was the principal of the school this guy went to. He talked to his parents.

[slatyb]

Block him if possible. Is he still attending classes? You might tell him that if he doesn't stop you will bring it to the attention of the college. Otherwise never ever ever respond to him in any way.

Other people probably know that he is lying about you.

[Asker]

I am blocking him at places, and he's coming back with newer accounts. Besides, I can see his friends stalking me virtually ( I can see them viewing my Instagram story). We no longer are college students.

I hope that other people know so.

[Iron_Man]

Are you sure you never gave him mixed signals from the past?

[Asker]

Well, I can't even remember his face. There were a lot of guys in the class. And I am not really comfortable with the oposite sex since I have completed my schooling from a girls school and don't have male friends. Plus I am shy and introverted. The first time I came to know that he existed was the day he messaged me telling me to be his girlfriend.

Since he's my father's student, I think, I probably him seem him once and twice while going out with my family. He greeted my father. But I can say that only because he has reminded me of those incidents.

[Asker]

since he's my father's student, I think, I have probably *seen him

[larry69]

Report him for harassment and stalking.
No means no

[Asker]

Yes. Thanks for validating my point.

[AngryCarl]

Cut his penis off and feed it to your dog. Do you have a dog? You should get one.

[boggboss]

Wait spreading rumours to who

[Asker]

He told me that he has told everyone he knows that I am dating him. One of our mutual friends (I didn't know they were friends with him) told me that he has told them that I have agreed to be his girlfriend.

[boggboss]

Tell your friend what's going on maybe show proof

[Asker]

Yes, I told her. However, people who don't know me that well can still believe him since I am introverted and appear as mysterious.

[boggboss]

But its irrelevant what they believe

[Asker]

Yes but for someone with social anxiety, it's kind of frustrating. However, I guess I should just stop paying rumors like that attention.