Are guys who aren’t afraid to flirt or touch usually mean they just want sex?

[Anonymous]

Are guys who are like that not seriously interested in you just being flirty even if they can’t really date you..

is there a difference between that and being genuinely interested

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+1 y

Not sexually tho but just not afraid to show intimacy or light touches

[MrOracle]

A guy who wants an actual relationship with someone is going to spend a good amount of time talking to her about her past, her views on issues related to long-term relationships, her morals and values, etc. Of course he's also going to have sexual interest in her, and he might express that interest in various ways, but the key thing is he will be evaluating her for a relationship partner and will expect her to do the same with him.

If a guy isn't talking about issues that are related to relationships and long-term compatibility, then he's not serious, or not interested at all, in a relationship. This is going to be most guys, and especially the attractive ones, because those guys have tons of options and have no need to commit to anyone - they can get everything they want without any real effort or sacrifices.

As a woman, and assuming that you only want a real, committed relationship, your job is to FILTER through the men who express interest in you, and filter OUT all the guys who aren't looking for a relationship. If you fail to do that job well - i. e., if you give the hot guys a pass, even though you know they aren't looking for a relationship, then you will get used for sex. But nothing you do is ever going to change a guy's mind - either he is already looking for a serious relationship, or he's not. And his behavior towards you OUTSIDE of the bedroom will tell you where his priorities are.

Don't make things any more complicated than they need to be, and don't get distracted by things that don't matter. If you focus on the things I mentioned above, you will almost always know what a given guy wants, and can choose accordingly.

[Asker]

Oh wow! Thanks for that thorough response! I needed to know that

We can’t date bc of work. I wasn’t sure but I think he’s just a flirt I don't know. He has looked a bit jealous before
He did enter into a new relationship a few weeks ago

[Asker]

Ig but he shows a lot of other signs too

He looks at me a lot! No matter where I am in the room. He glances at me numerous times lol that’s the first thing I noticed

During a meeting he said “I finally get to come over to you, how are you?”

He’s also touched my hand to demonstrate something bc I was so lost, but at first he used my finger then he lightly placed his hand on mine

[MrOracle]

Do you really want to be a side chick for this guy? I would think that him being in a relationship would be a huge red flag. Make sure you don't confuse SEXUAL interest as romantic interest - they are not at all the same.

[Asker]

He was doing this before he became official with his now girlfriend. They were just friends at the time but when they got together he did start to avoid me

[FilmGuy93]

That is not what that means, no.

My willingness/ability to date you has nothing to do with my flirting style. My willingness/ability to date you is shown more through my actions, and the things I do to be of service to you. I want to make my SO's life easier/better.

If I'm not seeking to make your life better; I don't care about you.

[Fryday_Knight]

No. If we don't flirt how are we supposed to date lol

[Asker]

Ig but he shows a lot of other signs too

He looks at me a lot! No matter where I am in the room. He glances at me numerous times lol that’s the first thing I noticed

During a meeting he said “I finally get to come over to you, how are you?”

He’s also touched my hand to demonstrate something bc I was so lost, but at first he used my finger then he lightly placed his hand on mine

[IdentetarianimSucks]

It could be inexperience and social anxiety.

[Asker]

Ig but he shows a lot of other signs too

He looks at me a lot! No matter where I am in the room. He glances at me numerous times lol that’s the first thing I noticed

During a meeting he said “I finally get to come over to you, how are you?”

He’s also touched my hand to demonstrate something bc I was so lost, but at first he used my finger then he lightly placed his hand on mine

[Anonymous]

I usually touch girls boobs n butt without afraid just to give them hint I want to have sex with them...

[Asker]

Not sexually

[Opinion Owner]

I do sexualy...

[Opinion Owner]

What is your boobs size?

[Asker]

40 ddd

[Opinion Owner]

I squeeze ya boobs...
Can I fuck you?

[Opinion Owner]

You have sexy boobs...
What's your height?

[Asker]

5’10

Never

[Opinion Owner]

I rub my cock on your butt n
Squeeze ya boobs from back..

You're awesome. Virgin?

[Asker]

Yes I am a virgin
No I would never fuck you

[Opinion Owner]

I kissed your neck 💋💋
What's your nipple colour?

[Asker]

No thanks

You can stop replying

[Opinion Owner]

Touch ya boobs..

Ohk ma'am. 😊

[Asker]

Ig but he shows a lot of other signs too

He looks at me a lot! No matter where I am in the room. He glances at me numerous times lol that’s the first thing I noticed

During a meeting he said “I finally get to come over to you, how are you?”

He’s also touched my hand to demonstrate something bc I was so lost, but at first he used my finger then he lightly placed his hand on mine

[Anonymous]

25-29 and you still don't know the difference? 🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

Not every girl has dating experience and some can’t pick up on things or tell the difference

[spartan55]

Awesome rewrite! 👍

[Asker]

Cool cool😎

[Asker]

What’s your answer?

[spartan55]

I don't ever want to be known as Spartan the Groper, or Handsey Spartan. So, flirty touching from me is minimal. UNLESS I'm really interested AND she is receptive/reciprocates.

[Asker]

He’s not handsy handsy like in a inappropriate way

But he did place his hand on mine while trying to direct it. How he did it was super discreet.. bc he directed my finger then he ended up placing his hand on mine while still guiding my finger

[spartan55]

No idea what were talking about hands fingers... stop overthinking this minutiae that isn't going to give you real answers.

[Asker]

I mean he did more but he entered into a relationship so it doesn’t matter

[spartan55]

You mean since your date?

[Asker]

No this wasn’t a date lol

A coworker at my corporate job

[spartan55]

Okay I'm totally confused.

[Asker]

I just thought he was a bit flirty and interested. The hand thing made me feel like it was more