Guys, Sent a text after several hookups with someone I work with telling him we should acknowledge it with each other while we are sober?

[Super2000]

I sent a text because I can’t bring it up at work but at the same time I think it’s responsible and mature to talk about it since we work at the same job together every day and it’s happened multiple times now. He asked me if I didn’t want to anymore and I said I was just trying to address it and that I did want to, he said he also wanted to. Once we established that he told me he was confused by my text because he feels like niether of us care that much and my text seemed like it was all emotional or feely… I really don’t care about it that much I was just simply doing what I could to prevent any future awkwardness. He also makes a point to tell me how much of a f boy he is and told me about his childhood abandonment issues when he was drunk.. like why is he telling me all this it’s just a simple hook up. How do I even reply to this when he brings these things up, he obviously probably doesn’t remember telling me all this info the night before when he was drunk so it just gets awkward for me… and to be honest I don’t care so why does he feel the need to tell me things about him being a f boy or his childhood traumas

[xColinx]

Yikes. Doesn't sound like he's comfortable processing this type of stuff when he's sober. I get why you'd want to just simply acknowledge with each other the ongoing situation/status of whatever is happening between y'all, and that shouldn't have to come across as overly emotional or clingy, but again it sounds like he has trouble dealing with that kinda thing even a little bit.

I guess you gotta figure out if the fun moments are worth the potential other baggage that might come with it down the line... he seems a bit unstable and unpredictable.

[20yearsolder]

People talk about all kind of shit when they're drunk. Bring up stuff that nobody wants to hear about. It's just what happened when you're drunk. I'm trying to figure out why you need to talk about it when you're both sober. Hook up when you want and then go your own way.

[Super2000]

Because we work professionally together 4 feet away from each other

[20yearsolder]

Basically it's just a booty call right? I'm not really sure why you need to have a conversation about it. If you feel strongly enough about it cut him off until he has the conversation

[FilmGuy93]

He's telling you that he doesn't want to acknowledge that y'all have been having drunk sex

[spartan55]

He doesn't want you latching onto him.

[Super2000]

By me just addressing us hooking up to be responsible, he is just assuming I have feelings? That’s pretty pre mature and cocky… do you all do that?

[spartan55]

Lol... no we don't all do that. He seems immature and wants to hide behind all that crap (being drunk, etc) I don't know what your goal is by talking to him. I don't understand how things could be awkward if you've hooked up several times already

[innerman]

So you like him not… you only wanted ‘D