He’s being possessive over her?

[theresyourgravy]

for the people who always sees me talking about new problems, every day i’m sorry.😭😂 there was a guy named brandon, i had a big ass crush. according to my friend, brandon said he already knew but my friend lied a lot so you never know. anyway, i completely moved on from brandon and we say hi to each other in the hallways now. he’s been spending most of his time with this girl named mia. our friend group is around 11 guys and 4 girls including me. but the guys don’t really include us in trips or group chats, only her because they’re in love with her. i had a feeling he’s like into her which is completely fine, since i’m not interested anymore. but last night i was hanging with mia and my other friend destiny. and brandon cuts in the conversation asking mia if she was gonna go with him to his room because him and a few of the other guys were gonna hang. and she was like yeah, give me a minute. so she continues talking to us and less than 30 seconds, he starts moving his hands in her face to pay attention and move with them. it was just weird because it was like he was trying to have her not talk to us. also she knew where his room was.. so she could’ve came up literally in a few minutes. but anyways when he did this, she just stopped talking and reached her arms out for him to help her up and he did. the situation was really weird. I don't know why he did that or even if they’re a thing? i feel like he’s into her along with the rest of the guys in the group, but why the heck did he try so hard to get her to not conversation with us? it wasn’t like they were gonna get alone time, especially with the other guys coming along with them

[Chill_Thoughts]

That was weird ad and maybe it's just me buuut, in a different context I'd say she is putting out to all of them and that they are actually all having "alone time" upstairs xD Had a girlfriend like that once and it was a fun experience, you do get possessive at times when needed tho.
Anyways that was a huge tangent to what I actually think this situation means. I don't think he is possessive, sure it was weird but I feel like he's really into her and took this opportunity to touch her cause he likes her. He wanted to get her attention and this was his way of playing the game. I also think it's nothing like him wanting you girls not to talk, that's just overthinking it in my opinion. The target of his actions is her, he is completely focused on getting her attention, hurrying her up and making her stop the convo with you isn't the point at all, just collateral to getting the attention he was pretty desperate for.
What I do think you should do is talk to your friend, figure out where she stands and help her come up with boundaries on how him and the other boys might treat her

[Raiden93]

Kinda sounds like he enjoys having somebody following him around. Makes him feel masculine. The hand in the face thing is kinda sad though. That's like reverse jealousy that didn't work. It's possible there are some insecurities because girls stick together and talk about things that guys don't know about. He's afarid somebody is going to make her have second thoughts. If i saw what was playing out I'd just have to shake my head because that's very immature behavior sir. Have some balls and let your woman breathe. Just saying...

[Curiosity2006]

Alright, let me just clarify that it wasn't just rude, it was screwed up and totally despicable of him to touch her that way! Getting his hands on her face to prevent her from talking to you girls? How disrespectful! You said he invited her to his room Before his friends come along and join them, yes? It could be that he wanted some "alone" / intimate time with her Before his friends show up. Or maybe his friends weren't gonna show up at all and it was merely an excuse to have her at his place alone for some "intimacy" time. If not the previous 2, then as you stated he's being possessive in an obsessive way! Nonetheless, whichever the case it may be, it's utterly inappropriate by all means.

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe he thought they could get some alone time together

[theresyourgravy]

yeah but there were 3 other guys going with them so he wouldn’t have a chance for alone time

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe he thought the other guys would leave and give them some alone time

[SnowedIn]

Maybe not so much possessive as a mix of possessive, and controlling, and concerned that she won't actually come hang with him.

Regardless, I think it's crappy. Either trust her or gain some confidence, or something. But don't touch her and force her to go with you. Blah.

[theresyourgravy]

honestly and she said she’d come up in a minute as well

[SnowedIn]

Yeah. But, if you're friends with Mia you and the other girls should tell her to keep an eye on that sort of behavior.

[theresyourgravy]

i wouldn’t say we’re close close, we would say 2 second conversations with each other and we recently had our first hang out recently

[OlderAndWiser]

It sounds like you are placing great significance on interpreting isolated interactions with people with whom you have no real established relationship. Am I right or am I missing something?

[Jamie05rhs]

What he did was very rude. And that was pathetic of her to just go along with it and not stand up for herself.

[Staximus]

He's trying to get her in the sack and acting like a fool, that's all. Don't overthink about the actions of this idiot.

[Andres77]

Sounds really controlling and/or desperate. Huge red flag.

[Mtbgirl]

Seems very immature and childish.

[larry69]

Sounds like he wants women to follow him.

[User3191989]

Yikes