Hi all INTP men. :)
I would very much like to know your game plan when it comes to flirting, seeing as I seem to attract you a lot.
You stare at me for months.
Then, if we are at a social gathering, after some more staring, you come up to me, directly turn towards me, but then keep staring and don't say anything.
An elaboration or how I can help you would really help the both of us.
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Haha MBTI, Now we're talking! INTPs are notoriously bad at flirting. My best friends INTP. Feelings are at the bottom of their cognitive stack. They tend to overthink these things. I remember an incident more than 6 years ago that my INTP friend holds against me till today.
He was talking to a girl for 30 minutes and believed he was making steady progress, like a calculated game of chess (I had recently met the girl the day before), suddenly I entered the room, ran over towards them, picked her up from the waist and span her around like her father. Then put her down and made small talk and walked off.
He later reported that in those few seconds, she smiled more than in conversation with him. The joy in her eyes broke his heart🥺 He said I basically scent marked her like a lion does to a tree. Lol he was done with her after that 😅 he STILL holds this against me. But he conceded that he wishes he could do this, But over thinks.
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Okay, so overthinking. Yes, I can see that as a problem.
Well, if she was more impressed with your approach, then I guess that is just the sort of person that dazzles her more. Nothing personal against your INTP friend.
Yea, overthinking and feelings of inadequacy socially.
If you want to get to know an INTP get him to help you understand a concept you're struggling with. Know a little about his technical expertise and ask for him to help you learn.
What is your personality type by the way?
I'm an INTJ.
Good advice. It seems I'll have to find something I don't understand and see if he gets it.
That's interesting. Usually we get along seamlessly with INTPs. I guess the gender dynamics may throw things off slightly..
Best of luck. There's no problem an INTJ can't solve :)
Kind regards,
Yes, I do think that the gender dynamics play a role, especially when things aren't strictly platonic.
"Best of luck. There's no problem an INTJ can't solve " - Let's hope so. :)
You're an INTJ? Good luck finding something you don't understand. 😉
I'm INTP/J, split on the P and the J. I've never experienced trepidation about approaching a woman who interests me, but I definitely do a lot of "sizing up" before I make the investment. It may be that a disproportionate percentage of INTP's are "on the spectrum" and tend to be socially awkward. If one graphed a normal distribution for the attribute of social ease/aptitude, I think a lot of INTJ's and INTP's would fall outside of three standard deviations from the norm.
Oh, snap. A question just for me! 😅
Ok, so the reason is because we're shy...
As far as how you can help us, I would say that the best thing you can do would be to say, "Hey!" and get our attention. And then say, "Can I have your phone number?"
Sounds good.
Thanks! :)
Balless…. that’s why. Raised without Confidence. It is a societal attack on the Family and Men as a whole. Between Feminist LGBTQXYZ gender bender etc.
It is Systematic in Nature.
I don't think that's true.
You’re not a man. You’re a woman influenced by everyone, including idiot boxes 📺, 💻 except the man experiencing it. No one makes your reply/statement just on feeling if they are intuit and in touch with others in the slightest.
You are not a good partner Risk and I imagine the Vibe I’m getting through here is the same one gets from you in person 🤷🏻♂️