I’ve been seeing this guy for a while now (casually) and everything has been fine but lately the guy keeps sending me mixed signals! he told me he’s busy, having some problems and can’t think properly as he’s overwhelmed with what’s happening in his life. I said to take time for him right now and if he needed anything I’m here, he seemed pretty happy with that. Fast forward two days later he sent a text saying he wasn’t feeling well and had been in hospital, so we texted a bit and I wished him a speedy recovery and to get some rest. I asked how he was the next day and he replied and asked if I was ok too, I said I’m ok and wished him well again to which he didn’t reply until the next day saying thanks I’ll be alright soon don’t worry x …. so I didn’t say anything back and continued to give him space (like we agreed) but the next day he sent a text saying I see you’re disappearing and hope you’re fine…any ideas what’s going on?
Needy with or without you. He’s hooked but emotionally he’s a train wreck. You can’t save him. He’s got to work it out. I would let him unwind and not try to fix it or sooth it.
It is a great opportunity to see how he reacts when things aren’t how he thinks it shoukd at that moment…. Does this make sense?
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He sounds confused as well as overwhelmed. The best thing you can do is give him space but also consistency. Text him/respond to him at the same time of day. He'll come to find out you're reliable and there for him. When he seems to be past the medical and other issues, you can pick up the pace of the communications but in the meantime consistency.
Sounds similar to things my ex/ baby daddy was saying to me just recently. Sounds like there could be some mental health issues going on with him. You giving him space is the best thing you can do. I'm sure with time he may open up and telling you exactly what is going on
He’s just unwell and wants you to text him more often.
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You need to give him some space. He obviously has too much going on right now.
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