Im experiencing this right now with a few people in my life, he's what most people would say 'is always different around her' and clearly maintains some emotional investment for her as they have known each other for many years - but recently he entered into a pretty serious relationship with a girl he just met. They immediately became exclusive and moved in together within the first month of their new relationship.
He still insists on maintaining his these very odd interactions with this other person but I can see she is become hurt and confused by this and doesn't feel right about the kind of attention he gives her (very sweet, very caring, very vulnerable with her).
He disrespecting his current relationship giving another person this type of intimate attention and causing unnecessary confusion for another.. Why?
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It goes both ways! There was a girl I was ion college with and I fell madly in love with her (even asked her to marry me, once!) but she was seeing my best friend, Mark. But, she kept dropping little hints, at least to me, that she was actually interested in our other best friend, Marc! Eventually, she had a little bit of an emotional breakdown and, during a crying fit about it, told me that she'd actually been more interested in Marc, all along but just figured that she'd never get him so, she decided to give Mark a try. Even though she wanted Marc, she stuck with Mark for at least a year. After this crying fit, she broke up with Mark and told Marc how she really feels about him. Not long after, THEY started seeing each other for a while but we all still stayed best friends!
It's kind of like watching celebrities, date other celebrities, even though you wish you could be with the celebrity. They're settling for them, because they're famous. Why would a girl like Eliza Dushku, want a guy like me, right?
assholes gon' asshole