He's not who I thought he'd be😭?

[Anonymous]

There's this guy in my class that I thought was pretty cool and smart, and he usually sat alone so I thought I'll try to be friends with him. Today we were sitting in a small group during class with another person who I guess he became close with. I didn't talk as much because it seemed like they already knew each way more than I know either. Also because, tbh, I was a bit uncomfortable and lowkey going through a crisis listening to their conversation. I thought this guy was normal but some of the things he said made me rethink everything. Like he was talking about becoming a p**n star, and obviously it was a joke but it was kinda weird how much details he knew becoming one? And some other generally sus things... like either they're reallllllly close or he's unhinged.

Anyway I'm still a bit shocked and can't stop thinking about it. I feel like maybe I shouldn't be friends with him? I never heard him talk like this before, and it's like I saw his real personality today. Maybe it's my fault for imagining him to be different but I don't know... I feel weird now.

[Iron_Man]

The best way to make friends in high school is to join a sports team and it’s very simple afterwards you have something in common you hang out you go places you chase girls

[Asker]

Unfortunately I'm not that good at sports, lol.

[Iron_Man]

There’s nothing you can do at all not even tennis or golf

[Asker]

Well I'm alright at badminton but still the people at my school are wayyy better than me so I wouldn't get in the team

[Iron_Man]

What about second string?

[Asker]

Maybe, I could try when the team has tryouts again

[Iron_Man]

Ok good luck

[Asker]

Thanks! :)

[Guy13]

Sorry to hear that. That kind of disappointment, sucks !!

[kylee2437]

It takes time to get to know someone. Maybe come in with a little less judgment but note it in case anything actually serious comes up that deems him not a good friend

[Asker]

That's true, it seemed he was already close with the other guy he was talking to, but I can still keep it in mind while trying to be open. Thanks!

[kylee2437]

@asker maybe he didn’t know him but they clicked because the other guy seemed to have passed less judgement.

[Asker]

Yeah that could happen... do you think I maybe overreacted? I didn't say anything about it to him, but I just felt off while listening to him.

[kylee2437]

You can feel off put , but I don’t think it’s a conversation that determines what kind of friend he may be.

[Asker]

Do you think I should still try to be his friend then? I probably won't even see him after the semester ends (next week), and with what happened today I'm not sure if I should try. I realize that what I heard doesn't determine who he his, but it seems like he apparently has a lot of friends already (he was talking about it), and maybe our personality don't match as much as I thought.

[kylee2437]

That’s up to you, I can’t tell you what to do it’s your life lol I’m just saying that it’s judgmental to use one convo to determine someone’s personality as a whole

[Asker]

Yeah that's valid lol. I guess for now I'll try, and not judge anything, but if it doesn't work out by the end of the semester I'll just forget about it. Thank you for your help! :)