I just don’t know what’s going on in his head?

[Anonymous]

Sorry in advance for how long this will be!!
Just over a month ago a guy approached me on a night out and we’ve been seeing each other since. He’s really publicly affectionate and is in no way embarrassed to be seen with me, he’s really physical, is always touching my leg/ holding my hand, tells me I’m cute/ beautiful.

i was with him a few days ago and he was saying he loved me, I questioned him a bit as we haven’t been dating long/ barely know each other but he just said he doesn’t know why, and I do think he believes that’s how he feels.

But then literally half an hour later he’s asking me how much I weigh and have I thought about going to the gym because slimmer looks nicer. I was so shocked, I’m a size 18 UK, so yea I’m fat, but it’s not like he didn’t know that when he met me, and it’s not like we’ve been together years and I started off slim and put a tonne of weight on through our relationship. I just don’t understand if that’s his preference why even approach me and then continue to be the one who’s way more invested in whatever this is. I kind of don’t really want to take it further now, I’d never be comfortable naked with him again, I guess I’m just really confused and would like an outside perspective!

[Guy13]

I’m not trying to be offensive but truthfully: Firstly, we’ve got to build trust to get this girl right. No guy dates a pretty faced fat girl with a hot accent without seeing her slim. Like it or not, this is reality and it should be assumed with all men. They are lying if they say different.

There’s not a guy alive, in this situationship, that has not used the “have your ever seen x-ray of large people midsection with fat literally hanging off the organs. They have to work harder so larger die younger. And diabetes…and I love you and want you to outlive me, ETC.”
It is what it is and this is it…sorry.

[SnowedIn]

I can't tell you what is specifically going on in his head, but I will tell you that I wouldn't stay with someone who said that. I don't for a second think this is about health or anything else: you said he told you slimmer looks nicer. That's not cool.

[spartan55]

What are you confused about? Seriously, what? He just showed you exactly who he was. Did you see it? I don't get how women constantly claim to be 'confused'...🙄

[Asker]

It’s confusing because from my perspective wtf is the point of approaching someone you don’t know and putting all that effort in if you’re thinking that? Why not go after a slim girl in the first place? It’s weird.
And I do see it hence why I’m breaking it off but that doesn’t mean I can’t find his behaviour confusing and just be curious as to what was going on in his head. Because if I wasn’t attracted to someone I just wouldn’t bother pursuing it let alone be all over them at every available chance

[spartan55]

Honestly, it doesn't matter what's going on in his head. He's a shithead. Women always have to 'understand' everything. Sometimes you just can't.

[Iron_Man]

Grill him back ask questions

[boobliker]

you can never tell