Should I trust my gut?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 17 months, and of course we’ve had our ups and downs but we definitely pushed through them. Well, last week there was something that went down at his mom’s house which caused him to hang up the phone on me as i was sleeping. (we sleep otp every night) when i wake up, i notice he’s not on the phone. I think nothing of it until I look to see where my friends location is and see his in a place i’ve never seen him before. so i ask where he is, and he tells me that something went down and he ended up sleeping with his sister at his sister’s friends house. He’s replying short sentences and not really saying anything so when i communicate that it bothered me that he didn’t send a message updating me before i woke up to see him in a different location, he blows up talking about i don’t know what’s going on and it was 4 in the morning. I let it go bc clearly that reaction was unnecessary however since being there, every night we go to fall asleep otp, it’s like clock work that the phone hangs up in the middle of the night at 3am-4am. this has been going on since he got to the sister friends house which was a week and a half ago. So, I ask him if he knows why the phone hangs up while we’re sleeping otp like we always do, he blows up again and says im checking him and he doesn’t know and etc. last night, while we were otp, im pretty sure the sister’s friend was on his sister’s phone and said a flirty response to something he said while talking. so i say all that to say, i do not want to accuse him of cheating but my gut is telling me something is up. what should i do?

[Anonymous]

Let it go and move on. It’s great that you two have been consistent about keeping the phone call going til the morning to simulate sleeping together but maybe he’s over that now and just doesn’t want to tell you, as not to hurt your feelings. There is no proof of him doing anything shady, so accusing him would only cause issues and make you look insecure or seem like you don’t trust him. Plus you will drive yourself crazy overthinking. So until you have something solid then don’t jump all the way over to cheating. I’m a firm believer that everything in the dark will come to light and if he is doing you wrong, you will find out without having to do anything.

[Guy13]

The test of all test is: woukd you trust this person with your check and household financials….

Usually, that’s a sign of lying. Blowing up, throwing it back on you accusatory in some Trust Me way etc, withholding details.
Can you trust that when not enough information or times get hard.

[Pyrofox]

Sounds like the sister is vetting you.

[Asker]

what do you mean by that?

[Pyrofox]

The sister is seeing how you react and do you trust her brother... Or are you the type to flake after knowing someone for 17 soon to be probably 18 months.

[Mamasanma]

Always