Guys, What does it mean when he talk about sex with you?

[Anonymous]

So I know this guy. We met in freshman year of college in a class and he then got a girlfriend and had me text the girlfriend whenever they got in a fight. They eventually broke up and we didn’t talk again till around senior year for a physics class. The problem is that he is weirdly comfortable talking with me about sex when he currently has a girlfriend in Japan which have been in a relationship for almost a year. He keeps talking about how much sex his girlfriend and him had when he visited, different spots on campus that he has had sex at, and the best position. I know him, but not so well where he would be comfortable talking about something so intimate. What does this mean?

[SnowedIn]

It means he is comfortable with you (which is good) but overly comfortable (which is not so good). As someone else here said, no sense of boundaries.

It means he probably isn't a good communicator with his girlfriend and probably not a good boyfriend. Here's the other thing: don't tell him anything: this means that nothing private, intimate, or sacred remains that way.

[Asker]

When you say, "don't tell him anything" do you mean not to respond to what he's saying and change the topic or not to confide in him about personal, intimate subjects?

[SnowedIn]

Actually, that's a brilliant point. I did mean don't confide in him any (ANY) personal, intimate subjects. BUT, you raised a really brilliant idea. Tell him to stop. First, don't respond. But, then, tell him you're done listening to him pretend he's all that. Tell him if you wanted cheap porn you'd read Literotica on your phone. :)

[summiter]

He obviously values ur opinion but he also may be interested in you! Have you ever fooled around with him? Maybe just keep him in the friendzone and tell him if ur uncomfortable hearing about all his sexual exploits or difficulties.

[Asker]

We've never fooled around. It's not that he's not good-looking, but he has a girlfriend, and he also talks really bad about them behind their back to me, so I don't want that kind of intimate relationship if he's going to be talking about me in the same manner with other people. Its the first time we met up to study since freshman year, so I was caught a bit off guard and didn't know what to do other than indulge him.

[summiter]

Good answer and it is best that you did not have sex with him if that is how he talks about his other gfs. Hopefully you have had a fun/good sex life while in college... you did not need him anyway?

[spartan55]

It means he is a moron with no sense of boundaries or self awareness. Why would he have you text his ex when they were fighting? And why would you ever agree to it? Very weird.

[Asker]

Yaaa I was kinda dumb. I did use him for lab reports so i thought it was okay, but after a while I got annoyed and ghosted him. After 2 years I see him again in my physics class

[spartan55]

I wouldn't bother with someone like that. He sounds weird, stupid and douchey on top of that.

[talka20]

He just doesn't care cuz he know his girlfriend isn't looking at his messages... and prolly he is looking to turn your on and maybe have some online fun too

[Asker]

What if he was doing all this in person? I remember he gave me a ride home because it was dark and public transport isn’t the safest at night and on the way home he brought up how he would take girls on rides in his car to “turn them on”

[spartan55]

@asker
That dude is a weirdo, taking girls for rides in his car to turn them on? Wtf is that?

[Asker]

@spartan55 yaaa it weirded me out, but at least I know to just use public transport from now on!

[Anonymous]

He's a doofus. a lot of women your age unfortunately equate a guys value to how much he's in demand with other women. So guys will do this (even if it's complete fabrication), To flex thier sexual prowess.

[Asker]

Ya, he mentioned that after his breakup, he had a lot of girls flirting with him. Maybe he thinks that someone that's "in demand" is the peak of attraction?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe, or maybe he just knows it definitely plays a role.

[ashish804]

he want to bang u too while having a girlfriend in japan

[In_Trance]

It means he wants to rail you

[Asker]

It’s funny you mention that. He had said that one of our mutual friends was overly friendly with him so he stopped talking with her because he “is loyal” to his girlfriend

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know why he would do that