Should I reach out to him on another platform to tell him to unblock me?

[Anonymous]

This guy had been consistently msging for 6 mths or so. We've hooked up twice. We where very um compatible sexually. I've ignored his msgs & Well he blocked me. & I don't wanna be blocked lol I'm doing my own thing after this break up & well I had hoped to see him in the future but well not now. I'm hoping that maybe he just blocked me because valentines day is coming up lol should i message him on another platform to tell him to unblock me. Or wait to see if he unblocks or maybe I could just casually bump in to him someday. He messaged me once saying that he saw me at a store w another guy and he wanted to say hi but didn't. So maybe we may bump into each other again because we live in proximity to each other. Except he seems very extroverted. & well I am not. Which may be a good thing or may not. Any advice?

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This is what I get for not being upfront

[WaterIsland]

I really wouldn’t. That is super stalker-ish behavior. He blocked you for some reason. It’s time to let go and move on.


The pain of breakups is hard. But clinging onto it, won’t do you any good. Even tho it’s hard, the best thing you can do for yourself is move on.

[WaterIsland]

I wouldn’t say it’s what you get for not being up front. There is a chance he is just a player and used you. But the reality is you don’t know anything.

You’ll find someone else. Breakups are hard, but you can do it and move on and find someone better for you.

[Asker]

Is it really super stalker ish Or is it taking initiative and going after what I want? We where never really anything.

[Asker]

But we mightve been something if I was ready which I wasn't. Just wish he would've been patient.

I'm feeling better about this. He might unblock me someday or i may run into him which will cause him to unblock me & reach out or I may just meet someone else.

[WaterIsland]

Yes. It is super stalker ish. But taking a step back. Do you really want someone who does that and blocks you without an explanation?

Like I know breakups are hard. I do. But he does kinda sound like a player.

You do you. But I highly advise against reaching out. It comes across as just SO incredibly desperate.

[Asker]

I mean I think all guys are players. Till you find the right person. How are you supposed to find the right person if you're not playing?

[WaterIsland]

You focus on the person and their personality instead of just using them for sex.

[Asker]

I understand. My self destructive behavior is coming back to haunt me. I guess it's for the best. Thank you for your pov & helping me see clearer

[WaterIsland]

Don’t beat yourself up. You got this! Glad I could help tho.

[Mayo503]

Does he know that you like him…?
Or what is it you want from him…?
If he thinks you don’t want him and he thinks someone else is in your life maybe that’s the answer so it’s up to you what you do next…
Let him know how you feel …
You never know he might feel the same way….

[Asker]

It's too soon to tell but yes I did. Seeing as he blocked me there's not much to be done now. I have made my peace w it. Maybe I will run into him someday. I'll consider it fate lol

[In_Trance]

Smh.. no