I got drunk and embarrassed myself in front of my ex/crush. I'm really scared that he thinks bad of me now. Should I worry?

[Anonymous]

At first we cuddled and it was really nice. When he left for five minutes I sat on the floor and started vomiting. I went up to the bathroom and just sat on the floor and he and our friend came to check on me and just watched me vomit.

I vomited all over myself, but I changed my clothes and washed myself and of course cleaned everything up. I didn't eat anything so all that came out was all alcohol I drank.

I remember I started crying and apologizing because they saw me and they just asked why am I apologizing. They were laughing a bit what really hurt me. After that we still cuddled but I don't know if he really wanted that. I get annoying when drunk and I'm scared that he didn't like it. But he still let me do it?

I don't know what to do. I remember telling him how much I love him but I also remember he said to me that he loves me too. I don't know if he meant any of that and I really hate myself for getting drunk like that. I'm really scared of what he thinks now. After that (when he went home) I asked him if he was mad at me and he just said "no I'm not, why would I be".

I still feel horrible and can't stop overthinking. We had a fight before and we just made up day before Valentine's. I am really scared what if he used this against me. I just want to disappear. My other male friend said it was bonding but I think it was horrible and he is probably disgusted by me now. It's been 2 days ago and I'm still overthinking.

[Guy13]

We all get a little too drunk once in our lives. And when one does they become the butt of everyone’s joke. You will be fortunate if there was no video and it does not end up on Facebook. This is the sort of thing that happens especially if it is live vomiting scene and you have it on your clothes. You may want to check. If not, then you have a great group of friends.

Simply do not do it again and in 3 months they will forget all about it until bored. expect to be laughed about on occasion as “you remember and did you see….” The laughing and ridiculing is all part of the process. If there is no video or pictures floating around on social media then you are fortunate to have a good set of friends. Be good for 6 months.

It appears that your Ex had a heart for you still so that’s good. It sounds like you both enjoyed the cuddling. You should expect him to know and ask questions. If he did say, “I love you” then he probably will have concern for you. This is not a way to get his attention. If it happens again, he may be done. You’re fine now though and let him “take care of you”.

[ShiftingMonke]

I wouldn't worry too much about it; the fact that he cuddled with you after you vomited shows he does still care, and that he was respectful to you during the cuddle shows even more that he cares.

Yes, them giggling probably did hurt your feelings a bit, but you were drinking, they probably didn't realize how uncomfortable you were. Had they known, I'm sure they wouldn't have done it.

If he uses it against you, then you'll have to deal with it then; no point in worrying about it now. Just do your best to not focus on it, go about life as normal, and try to be mindful of your limits next time.

[SueShe]

You are absolutely right to overthink the entire issue.

You lost control of yourself while intoxicated and now you got yourself a bad reputation. Why would you even drink that much alcohol in the first place? I mean, you are certainly aware of the consequences that being under the influence are yet you failed to be reasonable?

Your reputation is indeed compromised and I must say that this guy must really want something from you so badly that he took it upon himself to hug you afterwards. Even if you clean your clothing, you must not have smelled like a nice spring morning.

It was certainly not bonding but I see that you wanted to prove that you can drink. This demonstration indeed went totally wrong and now you have to live with the consequences. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Booze will do that to you. Hopefully you learned your lesson.

[es20490446e]

I can only tell what I had thought about that myself:

Since I don't drink I had thought that your values are just too distant to mines.

[Iron_Man]

It is what it is now, you shouldn’t have been drinking that much don’t do it again