I had sex with my neighbour and I don’t know where we’re standing?

[Anonymous]

I need your point of view for my situation. So, this guy is my neighbour and I’ve known him for years now. We both have dogs so before anything happened we were just talking about dogs and some daily stuff when we run into each other. I think we both liked each other for a very long time, but he was super respectful to my relationship I had back then. Last week we had sex and we both agreed on neighbourly-friendly-sexual status. But the thing that’s messing up my head is how that night was going. I went to his place and aside from sex he was cuddling me a lot, holding my hand, telling me that I’m great girl and that he never tried something before because he has a lot of respect for me and that he’s scared I’m gonna hate him after all this. We were up almost all night and I ended up sleeping over at his place. Before he fell asleep he told me that he’s very happy that I’m in his arms. It’s been a week since then and we haven’t texted or see each other. I just want to know what do you think about his mixed signals

[OfMiceandMen]

Did you reiterate your sexual status with him after sex and when he started opening up? If not, you may be sending some mixed signals too, holding hands, up all night talking, staying overnight. Those are girlfriend things not friends with benefits.

He didn't force you to stay, so maybe you should have said something to him before you let it get to the cuddling stage, etc.

[FilmGuy93]

Sounds like he's freaked out a bit because the connection with you got more intimate than he is/was comfortable with, so he's putting some distance in the relationship.

[Surely]

He might be waiting to see how you will react to what just occurred. If you are okay with what happened between you two. Then carry on as if nothing out of the ordinary happened.

[MrCommodore]

Message him and follow up, don't let it go beyond a week.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah…. That’s what causal sex does to you. It messes your head up.

[Wise4myage]

I’d say it’s just casual sex for time being.

[In_Trance]

This isn't mixed signals; it's your mixed perception.

[KrakenAttackin]

It's going to be hell living next to each other when you break up.

[Anonymous]

There's a sucker born every minute, and you're it.

[spartan55]

You aren't in that other relationship now?

[Asker]

I’m not but it’s very complicated because it lasted for 5 years and the ‘neighbour’ knows that’s the reason I’m not looking for any kind of relationship right now

[spartan55]

Complicated how? Like you aren't really broken up?

[Asker]

We are, but it’s more like a pause because I needed some space and time to figure out something by myself, I don’t think we won’t get back together in few months or so

[spartan55]

"I don't think we won't get back together in few months or so" Huh? What does that mean?

[Asker]

I wanted to try something more, he didn’t want an open relationship, so we split.. but both of us are looking on that like something that’s just temporarily

[spartan55]

Sorry but why you are making your romantic life difficult unnecessarily. You have this situation with this other dude (that sounds like a mess) that you say is temporary. Given that, why are you worried about what's going on with the neighbor guy? You had sex once. You both agreed to casual sex. What's the issue?

[exitseven]

He is afraid that his wife might find out

[riverrat3]

Just go on as normal, play it by ear