Guys, Do guys delete your number when they tell you "I'm moving on"? or do they keep it there in case they change their mind?

[Anonymous]

It a long story but basically, we both agreed we have a good connection and like each other and were on the same page about not wanting a relationship but then I texted him like maybe 4 times and I guess I came off like I actually did want a relationship and out of nowhere he said that he didn't feel like we really have a connection and that he's moving on. I was really surprised by this because as I said, we spoke about it and it was smooth. I guess he didn't like that I was texting him and I apologized for that and told him I was sorry he felt that way but was surprised, offered him friendship if he was down for that. And then I just said if he ever changes his mind he has my number and he's free to reach out and that I wished him the best. Also, he texted me after his trip that he was gonna be busy for a month and I confronted him about that and asked him if he was just not interested in me anymore and he said, that he was still interested and he wants to meet up with me. I didn't have sex with him by the way but that was the plan we just made out a lot and he touched my breast but thats it lol.

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I feel like after I asked him if he was still interested he should have been more up front about it. Instead of wasting time. I think he found a girl who put out fast and decided not to hook up with me anymore.

[spartan55]

I keep numbers because it never crossed my mind to delete them.

[Asker]

Is that sarcasm or are you being genuine? Haha

[spartan55]

No, I'm serious. That is close to last among things I even think about, much less actually do them.

[spartan55]

Thanks for the MHO!

[In_Trance]

They should delete but sadly, a lot don't

[Asker]

Interesting

[Guy13]

If I loved her I keep her number. I’m not messing with her but I have had one call me looking for a place. I had one that frightened me with suicide thing.

I am not keeping it to hook-up🪝

[Asker]

Love is a strong word but I"ll sum it up for you. We were texting for 2 weeks in December before meeting up in January. We went on two dates and he said he wanted to see me again after his trip. And you know the rest from the details.

[Asker]

He was away on Christmas for the holidays in December

[Jamie05rhs]

"we just made out a lot and he touched my breast but that's it lol."

"decided not to hook up with me anymore."

These two statements contract one another.


... Are you not aware of what hooking up means?

[Asker]

I feel like that's not even a hook up its like high school hooking up

[Jamie05rhs]

Lol. I thought high school hooking up was blowjobs and fingering.

[Asker]

LOL it depends I guess

[Jamie05rhs]

Hmm okay lol.

[strlb]

Sometimes but rarely. You clearly made your mind and so have I to lose your #. Good riddance

[Asker]

Excuse me? I dont think you understood my story.

[strlb]

Lol sorry I was replying to your headline. Tbh I'd just ignore him and definitely don't wait around b/c that gives him the idea you're just waiting for him. In the meantime I strongly suggest going out with other guys. If things work out later cool but why should you deprive yourself of other opportunities and with someone that would love to be with you.

[Asker]

Deff not waiting around. I'm back on dating sites. I just wanted insight from men on here to see if guys delete a number after saying they will move on. ... But I did tell him if he ever changes his mind that he has my number to reach out and that I had fun hanging out with him. it was mutual that we both aren't ready for something serious.

Thank you for that! The consensus I got from everyone here is that he probably did not delete my number even though he said he'll move on.

[Asker]

I forgot to mention that was this Friday and then I decided to send my last message about if he changes his mind he can reach out and that I wished him the best on Sunday. I deff expressed how I felt to him on Friday. But anyway, thanks for the advice!

[strlb]

Sure np. Hope it works out for the best since you're really into him. DM is always open

[Asker]

Thank you!

[Texas_guy]

We usually keep it unless there’s 0 percent of ever talking to that person again

[Asker]

That doesn't make any sense lol

[Texas_guy]

You just never know what’s going to happen

[Asker]

what if they reach out to you and you kept the number or vise versa?

[Texas_guy]

I’d reply. I know I have some exes numbers in case they call

[Asker]

hmm so not sure if this guy deleted my number or not even tho he said he's moving on.

[Texas_guy]

Have you texted him. You can do me if you want

[Asker]

I just texted him back on Friday and told him how I felt and then decided to text him one last time yesterday and just said this "Hey. I know you said we should both move on but if you ever change your mind you can reach out to me. I wish you the best and I had fun hanging out with you. Xoxo"

[Texas_guy]

He may not want to reply if he’s moving on. I’m sure he knows who it is though

[Asker]

Edit: " You have my number so feel free to reach out to me" and then the rest

[Asker]

I don't think he'll reply to that but I thought It was a good way of ending it. But now he knows he can reach out if he ever changes his mind.

I personally deleted his number off my phone so if he does I'll know its him.

[Asker]

But if he does reach out, I'll know its him*

[boggboss]

The answer complety depends on the guy

[Asker]

True.

[Asker]

Do you usually keep the number when you say you’ll move on or delete it?

[Anonymous]

Block it so she can’t call.

[Asker]

Thats a bit too much haha thats for like a stalker lol