Guys, Do men wish it was socially acceptable for them to cry?

[Anonymous]

I feel like because men aren't allowed to cry they channel this energy into "manly" aggression instead, whether physically, verbally, passively etc. I feel men are hurting more than they let on but no one would know because all they know to do is push you away, which I imagine only hurts themselves more as well as the people they care about most. I feel the world would be a much peaceful place if men were allowed to cry. So back to my question, do you wish u were allowed to cry & express ur feelings as and when they arise?

Yes

No

I don't know

[SomeRandomGuy89]

Fun fact... anger is actually a bi-product of estrogen. Most people believe it's testosterone that causes this but nope.

Although people with high levels of testosterone do tend to have more anger and aggression that's simply because estrogen is made from testosterone so by having more testosterone they also end up having more estrogen.

As to your question. No I don't wish it was more socially acceptable for men to cry. I think men have been feminized far more already then is healthy. Let men be men and let women be woman. We will all be happier for it.

[MageSage]

You're part of the problem. By pushing this view that "It's girly to cry at anything other than a death or child's birth", you're perpetuating the high suicide rate of men every day. There's nothing wrong with crying, and we need to stop pretending that we are indestructible, because they're not. We need to stop pretending that we're supposed to be emotionless robots, because we're not.

Ask yourself this: Would you find a woman that shows no emotion, no empathy, and no joy attractive? If the answer is yes, then you might as well marry a painting.

[SomeRandomGuy89]

@MageSage Emotions are vital for personal development. Without them we would be lost. It's how we get to know ourselves. If we don't know what makes us angry, what brings us joy, and what pulls at our heart strings. If we disconnect from our emotions then we do don't know what drives and motivates us. We don't even know what we like.

But don't confuse a disconnect from emotions with the public expression of crying. Which I am absolutely not saying men should even be devoid of doing... but the message is wrong. It's not okay to cry in public. It's not okay to lash out when you're angry. It's not okay.

How we express ourselves is important. Our ability to endure is important. You have to endure life before you can make it one worth living. Testosterone and ones ability to lean into adversary and endure. It is important.

I genuinely believe that crying openly and publicly is not in the best interest for men's health. I think that line of thought does far more harm then good. I think masculinity should be embraced. I think it's been pivotal to our society and we need more of it; not less.

p. s. I'm not your enemy. Look in a mirror. There is your enemy.

[Chthou95]

No. In public its not okay. Men need to learn to be more in control of their emotions because when men act on emotions they do stupid shit. Crying for cetrain things in life like the death of a loved one is understandable and natural. But crying when things get too hard or crying over a girl is not going to help men. Its going to hinder them. Men need to be more logical and think clearly about things. Men and women aren't the same. It should never be socially acceptable for men to just cry out

[Anonymous]

All of what you said is true, but the fact is it isn't ok for men to cry openly, and it never will be, because it goes against what men are valued for, and what women respect them for. We need to stop pushing the PC message that men should feel comfortable crying, because it just sets them up for failure.

[serious]

No, I don't wish that. It is never okay for a man to cry in public or in front of a group. It is just outright unattractive and especially to the opposite gender.

[Berethor]

You can look at the 'manly tears' trope, I prefer to never cry and be stoic, though I can cry.

[Pyrofox]

Too many actors and pretentious pos's that live off of back stabbing and keeping secrets to even consider this a valid concept.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

To be honest yes, but even if it was more acceptable, I'd still save my tears for private moments.

[JordanianNumetal]

Personally I don't cry in front of people, or at all really. It just doesn't help, and no one cares. Not to say it doesn't help others, or they shouldn't. If it makes you feel better.

[smilelots]

It is ok for a man to cry we are human right , who said it was not socially acceptable to do so ,, was not me was it you Anonymous?

[Anonymous]

Troll question. It is socially acceptable. Most women don't think like you.

[Iron_Man]

They do at death and somethings