Why did he try to ghost me after agreeing friends with benefits relationship?

[Anonymous]

I dated a boy before and he ran away from me after I talked about serious relationship. But I got too attached to him and I asked for friends with benefits just to close with him. Besides , I am a virgin and I am willingly to lose my virginity to him. At first he accepted that and he would be ok with that but now he is trying to ghost me like he didn’t even reply my message. Why?

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He wants to start with goving head

[JamesDiaz11]

You probably shouldn't get involved with this guy- you know it's a bad idea. You letting him pop your cherry isn't going to flip a switch in his head to make him love/ care about you; although, it may get you far more attached (to your own detriment).

He's probably reluctant to get involved with you because guys know the trend of girls to get clingy after they lose their virginity to a guy. We're also in the era of #metoo; so, let's say he does have sex with you, but a relationship doesn't happen, maybe he moves on, THEN you feel bad about it. How common is it for a girl just cry rape?

[Asker]

But I want him ;) I want sexual pleasure from him

[JamesDiaz11]

If you're a virgin you don't understand what happens chemically after sex, but it's your choice- I don't want to waste my time convincing you.

[Asker]

Ya I have no idea what will happen after sex :) but why people mostly enjoy one night stand? They don’t get attached?

[JamesDiaz11]

No, people get attached, especially women. The only people who can enjoy one night stands are those who are so numbed to attachment, via sex with multiple people, that they can completely separate their feelings from the physical act. THIS IS NOT A GOOD PLACE TO BE.

[Asker]

Thank you it really helps me a lot❤️

[BagoH]

Because he knows better , when a girl has feelings we know friends with benefits won't end well and it's only a matter of time before things become more emotionally one sided and dramatic so we avoid it at all cost. I have experience in this and I can assure you he doesn't wanna end up with you getting hurt. You're already attached there are feelings so he's avoiding sex with you because it will likely get worse for you.

[BagoH]

I respect his move , he doesn't wanna take advantage of you and use you.

[Asker]

He said to me now that he really wants this but he was worried if he change his mind in the future:)))

[BagoH]

You can hang out get to know each other better but withhold sex. Do the usual shit tests you women do and find out how he truly feels about you.

[Asker]

He wants to start with goving head

[BagoH]

Giving head? Sounds like he's after the coochie lol and is bullshitting you.

[BagoH]

You can go ahead and do as you please but know this , you might catch some strong feelings and learn it the hard way.

[Asker]

I m inexperienced and never touched by a boy before and I don’t even know what is giving head

[BagoH]

Google it

[Asker]

So he wants me to do oral sex first

[Anonymous]

I've been in his position before. I've never blocked anyone, but I've felt incredibly guilty knowing that I was getting what I wanted, but I wasn't able to give her what she wanted. As long as you each have different goals, it will be an unequal relationship and he will essentially be using you. His blocking is probably him trying to help you get over him and find someone who deserves you.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer😭😭❤️❤️❤️

[Anonymous]

He is flaky. Don't worry, you will meet many more men like that during your lifetime.

[Asker]

He just want sex and I m trying to give what he wants. what’s matter?

[Guy13]

👻. He had to float to another port while the tide was high.

[Iron_Man]

They never work out those things

[In_Trance]

He got a better offer