For example, say that a girl asks out a guy in their circle of friends, and he says no. Whenever the group gets together again, who is the one that feels uncomfortable and why? If the girl is required to talk to the guy in order to share her perspective on something that the group is talking about, will he feel pressure not to say anything that might hurt her feelings, even when the conversation isn't about love/relationships?
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Bethany22, it all depends on the person, not the rejector or rejected. Some just don't feel shit. Also, it depends on what grounds the person feels he was rejected and for what. Was it just for a coffee or a million-dollar proposal, it all factors into how a person may react. In my case I've had shameless girls, who just ignored my polite rejections and just came on stronger till, like a bitch, I relented. And sad to say, it is people like that , that are the real go getters. But mainly its in your hands, after you reject or are the rejected, its how you can handle the situation to make the person feel comfortable and move ahead, though if u are the rejected, its best to act that it was a non-issue, and you don't care either way. The best way is to make a play giving the person an out in the proposal, that way he cannot reject you, since it was you who gave him the out. There is also another way, make a long proposal so you can clearly gauge his response and accordingly you do the rejecting or accepting. Now these are all very sophisticated negotiating plays that take practice. But again I see, you are too quick to jump to conclusions. Don't jump, just take in data and then see the facts and then decide. Shooting from the hip will cost you, try not to do it.0
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The interaction of personal or dating in Groups, whether it be a friend or workplace group, would seemingly be thought through prior to acting. If one has not considered the possible outcome of rejection when planning then this will be evident within Team interaction.
Talk about something that speaks volumes to a hierarchical structured Group, failure in this area certainly resonates. An unprepared mind demonstrating incapability to overcome failure, propagate strength, and fostering a "greater than you and I", within Groups, will be felt.
There is absolutely no opportunity to work through personal issue in fun or Work as the case may be. How can anyone, within a hierarchical structure, follow anyone who struggles within the most simplest personal interactions. It seems like highschool would have prepared one for this.0
This is where you have to just laugh: The answer is that BOTH people feel awkward! (it's not 'haha' funny. But it's kinda funny)
But both people get to feel awkward, just for different reasons.
But it shouldn't last long in a group of friends situation. It's a temporary awkwardness. That is best handled by a frank conversation about how stupid it is that things are so awkward between you (after a bit of time of course).
And yes, that guy would indeed make a point to not say something to hurt that girl's feelings after having rejected her; even if it had nothing to do with love/relationship. That's because, doing so would seem (and probably feel) like actual hostility considering the recent rejection. If he had something negative to say in that settiing... it would have to be important for him to voice it.0
If a girl who was part of my circle of friends put a move on me in private but I wasn't interested, I would feel awkward at that moment because I would feel bad rejecting her. But I don't think I would feel awkward being around her in the future. I would act like nothing had happened. I would hope that we could continue being friends. Although, it would depend on how she acted around me.
She would be smart to let it go and pretend like nothing had happened.10
This is why I keep telling men to be realistic and know that women and men cannot be friends. There will always be a degree of sexual tension and libido. And being friends is just an opportunity to get friendzoned, or even worse have your expectations royally betrayed.0
I had to read this over twice. I think they both feel weird.20
I'm with @exitseven , though it took me three reads before I understood the question.10
In most cases a combination of both. The rejector because they may feel bad about it, and the rejected because of the potential blow to their ego.0
The first time the girl asks me out, I would say, let me think about this one. But I wouldn't reject her, and then my second decision would be when we ask one out.0
I would guess it's both, at least to SOME degree. Unless, one of them just doesn't care about such things.0
I think when a girl asks a guy out in her group it is probably more awkward after a rejection than the other way around as guys are more used to being rejected.0
The person who was rejected. I go out of my way to avoid those women.0
I think both people will feel awkward0
The rejected obviously0
In that situation it would be the Rejected.0
Both the rejected and the rejector may feel some level of awkwardness or discomfort after a rejection, particularly if they still have to interact with each other regularly. The specific reasons for this discomfort may vary depending on the individuals involved and the context of the rejection.
For the rejected person, they may feel disappointed, embarrassed, or rejected, particularly if they had strong feelings for the other person. They may also worry about how the other person views them or how the rejection may impact their future interactions.
For the rejector, they may feel guilty or uncomfortable about having to deliver a rejection, particularly if they care about the other person and don't want to hurt their feelings. They may also worry about how the other person will respond or how the rejection may impact their future interactions.
In terms of interactions after the rejection, both parties may feel some level of pressure or discomfort, particularly if they are required to interact in group settings. The rejected person may feel self-conscious or anxious about how the other person perceives them, while the rejector may feel pressure to avoid saying anything that could be perceived as hurtful or insensitive.
Ultimately, it's important for both parties to communicate openly and respectfully with each other, while also respecting each other's boundaries and needs. It may take time and effort to move past the awkwardness and discomfort of a rejection, but with patience and understanding, it is possible to maintain positive and productive interactions.