Historically the obsessive stalkers and possessive lovers who can't take no for an answer were mainly sick, twisted men. They get too fixated with a woman to the point of doing horrible things if she doesn't want to be with him or rejects him. Then they use their famous phrase of ''If I can't have you then no one can''.
Is that mainly a man thing, obsession? A woman usually doesn't get that obsessed over a man (rarely would one act like the one in Fatal Attraction) nor applies that phrase too much.
