I got a suggestion for an insta account this morning. The picture was of two cuddling feet in bed. I recognized my friends feet from his recently shared vacation pics to South America so I clicked it. It also has his and her name, a relationship insta.
My take is: He met this woman on his weeklong vacation, slept together, probably still texting after the 2.5 months he’s been back.
But why would he make a secret insta account where he doesn’t add any of us, his friends? Not a single one of us. Why doesn’t he just publicly post her as his “gf” on his original account? She wasn’t even in any of the pics from his vacation.
He’s middle aged and she’s in her 20’s so I’m guessing he’s embarrassed? He had always said he could never date someone that young.
I want to ask but I’m not sure what’s going on with him. Midlife crisis?
It’s also weird that after knowing someone for only one week, he’s creating a relationship account. He usually seems very level headed so it’s unusual and this girl seems very narcissistic, immature and materialistic. (Yes, I checked out her insta). She has nothing of substance or similarities to his interests so this whole thing is weird.
Has anyone gone through this? I’m partially worried for him but not sure if this is normal for a mid life crisis maybe?
Should I talk to him to see if he’s okay? Have my husband who’s closer to his age talk to him? I did notice he rarely posts on his normal account anymore. My feed always had his stuff but after his vacation, it was like he died. On both his business and personal accounts.
I just realized this too: The new girl looks similar to a girl he was close to who ghosted him right before his vacation.
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Damn, mind your own business woman. You are taking an awfully keen interest in that guy... wonder why.
1. You’re not even giving an answer to the question. 2. As a friend, you should care if something doesn’t feel right about your friend’s mental/emotional state 3. We are so close that he’s our kids goddad. I will care.
If you’re not going to even remotely answer the question, mind your own business and move onto a question you can actually answer.
So because he lightens up on social media that means something is wrong and it's some sort of big crisis? Bullshit, you're just being nosey. You think he can't decide if wants to hang out with a woman unless you approve? Why all the judgement about that woman?
You aren't being a concerned or caring friend. You are being nosey and meddlesome.
It’s not just about the social media. If you actually had empathy or close friendships, you’d understand how someone is after knowing them for years. He’s been acting different, feels different- it’s not just on social media. We support his business as well and every week for YEARS he posts. He’s made 3 posts in 3 months. Feeling like something is off with someone you care about isn’t nosiness. It’s called caring. And then to get an alert to a secret insta, to a secret relationship is weird.
Get a life and stop trolling.
Always the dipshit pink anons accusing me of trolling. So stupid. If you weren't so lazy and looked at my profile you would know that is not the case. And somehow you know I have no empathy or close friendships too... uh no? Not true. If you have to make shit up to put me down that means you have nothing.
If this is such a crisis why you talked about it with him to 'show your concern'. I half believed all of this caring crap until you felt the need to rip a woman you don't even know and (surprise!) make several assumptions about her as well. Just stop by your boyfriends house so you can stop creating all this nonsense in your head.
He’s not my boyfriend. Yet you’re the one making assumptions dipshit from your very first post. And without even answering a single question. And I did look at your profile and can see you’re just a whiny troll with nothing of substance to add to anyone’s question. Troll
Riight, whatever you say pink anon. You still won't address why you went nuclear on that woman you don't know. Does this guy really need you to judge his relationships so you can save him from himself?