We’re both relationship oriented. We’ve been flirting including a lot of ‘😉’ emojis and he’s been complimenting me a lot. We had our first date today and it went well. I feel turned on by him and would like do it with him. Should I just ask? Or will he initiate soon?
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You can ask him anytime AS LONG AS he is indeed clear that you're relationship oriented.
Basically the only downside to doing this, is if this guy doesn't yet see himself as "anything special" to you. If he feels like you might very-well be talking to other people the way you're talking to him. There's nothing... exclusive about it (as opposed to two people who might just be starting-things-out... but it's explicitly clear that you're both jumping in with both feet, and it would be messed-up if they were having similar conversations with someone else).
It's sometimes unwise to say, have sex on the first date, because it can make a guy think you seem not-so-relationship oriented. That's if it's a situation where you don't know each other very well at all, and you go out for dinner or something. If it's basically "a date with a stranger, to see if you hit it off" and you sleep with a guy, then the implication/assumption is that you would do that with any and all "strangers who take you out on a date." (not relationship material).
(and this might be a fairly common view, but it's by no means universal. Some guys would not even see it this way. But most looking for a relationship at least might.)
Now that's super-easily off-set in a bunch of ways. Basically, if this guy thinks of himself as more than, essentially "a stranger you're flirting with and had one good date with" in any way. You're good. You don't need to worry about being misjudged for this. For any reason (even if that reason is just that the two of you have CLEARY hit-it-off in an extraordinarily good way on the first date, this would no longer be an issue. If it's one of those "oh my god, I feel like I could just talk to you for hours... this is the most magical date-night I could ever have hoped for"---that kinda shit.)
As long as he can't say to himself: "well she probably does this all the time with guys she doesn't know (like me, at this point)" Then you're good.
So, with that caveat, if you want to have sex with the dude, then you should absolutely ask him. Don't wait for him to ask you. Ask him. 🙂
He might initiate soon, but most guys, especially if they're into the girl. Wouldn't mind if the girl asked if they wanted to fuck
So I'd you asked him. Your success rate is pretty high. But with that being said, if you don't want to risk him taking it the wrong way and y'all not working out. Which even though I see it being highly unlikely, if you want to take the safe route you could just invite him over to your place i suppose and hope he makes a move. Or you could just make the move on him. You do what feels right
People who have sex after the first date are the same people who can't keep a relationship. Get to know the person first, make sure they aren't lying about anything. Unless you want to end up a single mom or std ridden?
Hell no haha I decided gonna let him initiate that stuff:)