I just found out that the guy who I dated and rejected over the less of attraction was actually quite hot, why do we feel attracted when it’s late?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

This guy that I dated and didn’t feel attracted enough, I just found out his ex girlfriend was in fact much hotter than me and I came across some of his old photos from one year ago and he looks really handsome, happy and hot next to her.

I feel like I am silly I treated him this way. But he just really looked unattractive to me compared to my ex, I mean he looked attractive enough for me to get attracted but not attractive enough for me to feel that crazy chemistry. Because I was used to having a guy who was very athletic and just really strong and this new guy was very slim.

I now feel maybe I was the problem; Because he looked amazing next to his ex, why not next to me though? I mean he dressed very stylish and was very cool next to me as well, but I didn’t like how slim he was.

I also wasn’t over my ex fiance and judged him too hard compared to my ex. Cause my ex fiance was just very sexy so next to him this new guy would be nothing special.

But looking at him now, he looked so cute and attractive when he was next to his ex girlfriend.

I feel like maybe I should have given him the chance… He treated me really sweet and even told me he loved me. I actually kinda look similar to his ex and I feel maybe that’s why he wanted to date me, to create the same feeling he had with his ex maybe…

Of course, he wouldn’t feel the same from me because I treated him really bad and I wasn’t ready for a relationship. He was really serious about me though.

I wish I have never seen his old pictures with his ex, I feel jealous now.

[Alex8736]

TBH I feel everything happens for a reason but moving forward you will meet someone when you least expect it 😘

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Hey, thanks for not judging.

First, I kinda feel like he wanted to replace her with me. Because this girl looks a bit similar to me and I feel like he has a type, which I fit perfectly.

However, I was newly recovered from my break up with my fiance who I was head over heels in love with, so not only I wasn’t that willing to open but I also didn’t feel the crazy, all consuming chemistry from this new guy that I felt from my fiance at the beginning of our relationship.

My fiance really tried his best to make me fall for him, this new guy though, I feel like he was sweet nice and all, but he not only didn’t fit my perfect type but wasn’t that attracted to me either.

I feel like for him I might have beeb just a perfect replacement for what he has lost.

I can’t be that though. I can’t be with a man who doesn’t show me the crazy, all consuming love that my ex showed me.

I can’t accept to be someone’s replacement. So I am happy he and I didn’t work out.

I didn’t know his ex was so similar to me or I wouldn’t go out with him at all. I like to be unique.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

The reason I felt jealous was that I realized he was hiding all his old pictures and didn’t even tell me about his ex, while I told him about mine. He just told me they broke up 1 year ago,

I saw his post from 1 year ago and they were still together though. So, I feel like even though we broke up over my reason, it was maybe my instinct not to go out with him.

After we kissed I got a headache, my eyes hurt and my body was just refusing him.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I never got a headache in my life.

[Alex8736]

kind of feels something just didn't seem or feel right?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

There’s one more thing I disliked about him, my ex fiance while he was very sexy, was so attracted to me, it took him 3 months to get the courage to kiss me, because for him I was so untouchable.

This guy though, grabbed and kissed me at the 2nd date, without even telling me. I just looked around and he kissed. It is telling for me that he felt a bit too comfortable for my liking, if he truly hinestly liked me that much, he must have felt shy to kiss me so unexpectedly

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes, something was off for me.

[Alex8736]

it's amazing how the body reacts which I know too well but there are positive reactions where your body feels very comfortable like you have known someone your whole life. 😊

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@msc545 Check out this as well, instead of judging just one part of my story

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

He was holding my hand when we were walking and I felt good cause it was a long time since I was so close to someone to hold their hands, but I didn’t feel anything. He was just a person who held my hand and I felt good about this, when we were alone i felt attracted, but when we were dancing, I and him were so different with rhythm that I at some point thought he was gay, cause we just didn’t fit.

[Alex8736]

just think of it as a learning experience when moving forward and always keep your head held high 😁

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I mean, something like this has never happened to me. My body has never actually told me not to go out to someone, I am a very healthy person, very healthy I can say. Something weird happened tho after we started dating, after kissing him, as I told you, my eyes start hurting, I got the headache, then I got a virus, it was just too weird for me because I am usually very healthy and strong, but suddenly I felt like he affected me in a bad way, my body was literally feeling unwell in his presence. Or it’s just a weird coincidence.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And yep, I’ll think of it as a learning experience ^_^

[Alex8736]

it was definitely your body telling you something... I am also very healthy and active and never get sick especially during the alleged Covid outbreak when I was working the front line in the ER but if My body reacts in a negative way I know for a fact something is wrong

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yep, how is that even possible though? How could you feel with body that someone is just not right to you?

It felt like my body was just making me feel bad on purpose not to go with him. I am surprised about that really…

To the contrary there was this German guy I dated briefly, he kissed me as well and his kiss felt like the breath of the fresh air, I enjoyed every bit of it, I felt like It gave me more energy, more liveliness, made me feel much happier. I can say it was the best kiss of my life and I am sure even if I felt sick, that kiss could give me back the strength. Just I don’t know why… I guess, someone is just not right for you.

[Alex8736]

you just know what you want and don't want to waste time chasing when the clock is always ticking and time never stops and lets just say hypothetically speaking in 10 years from now you dont want to see yourself posting a question about "the one who got away and if i can only turn back time"

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t think I will regret it. Because with this slim guy I feel repulsed to remember we have kissed. And I feel angry he kissed me without my permission.

[Alex8736]

but just think positive and keep it in the past because what doesn't kill you makes you stronger and smarter 😇

[Anonymous]

Because you're a flake. Don't worry it's all good. He's better off this way.

[Kyr0s]

I'm so happy for that guy personally. I hope he someone way better :)

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I honestly hope so too. I feel guilty and bad that I met him at the time when I couldn’t appreciate him.

[Softlife808]

You need therapy. You're weird and I'm glad he has a normal individual in his life. You need to move on dude is not interested in you

[msc545]

He is very lucky he won't end up with you as his girlfriend yet again. You sound

[msc545]

Sorry I got cut off there. You sound completely superficial. He would only last as long as yet Another guy that you found slightly more attractive didn't come along.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

The problem for me is that I still thought my ex fiance was the most attractive man in the world, I don’t think that’s because I am or was superficial, I think that’s mainly because I wasn’t over him.

My ex fiancé is not the most attractive man in the world, I’ve probably met more attractive ones in life, but I don’t remember because I truly deeply loved him and I don’t think I’ve ever noticed any other hotter guy since I fell for him.

[msc545]

Since all you care about is appearance no matter who you are with you will always find a better-looking guy.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

At your age, you must be smart enough to not judge people so easily.

You read here things that I choose to share, and there are a lot of things that I choose not to share.

I do care about attraction.

However, saying I only care about appearance is wrong. At the time when I met my fiance, there were two other guys after me, one of them was a young and handsome millionaire and another one was very handsome and a nice person. My fiance wasn’t the best looking guy, there were others better than him wanting to have a relationship with me.

I chose him because apart from his looks, he was the sweetest, kindest, the most attentive, devoted, persistent, ambitious, hard working, family-oriented man who understood me and loved me the way I was, he accepted my worst habits, supported, motivated me and loved all of me. I felt home with him, I have seen better looking guys maybe but as I said I don’t remember, because after I fell for him I totally lost all the interest in any other man and he became the sexiest man for me in the world. So, slow down when you claim I’d live him for better looking guys. I enjoyed saying no to everyone who was disrespectful enough to try to flirt with me while I was in a relationship with him. Doesn’t matter how hot they were.

[msc545]

What I said was based on my impression from your initial writings on this subject and despite your denials, I don't think I was entirely wrong - count the number of times you used the word handsome in your latest response to me. You are still obsessed with appearance and probably height.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What’s wrong with being so attracted to your fiance that you think he is the most handsome guy out there?

Saying he is handsome doesn’t mean, he’s the best looking guy out there for every girl, it just emphasizes that I was very attracted to him, which is a rare thing for me. So rare, that I have to cherish it when I feel this way about someone.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

And when someone you think is absolutely stunning and when his personality is even better and he makes you feel like the happiest and the most loved girl in the world - is that a sin to crave that feeling again?

[msc545]

Just keep looking for the best-looking guys you can find and keep ignoring everything else.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

If I wanted the best looking guys and didn’t pay attention to the personality I’d not be single now.

[msc545]

Of course you are single - you cannot stop worrying that there might be a better-looking one right around the corner and you might miss out by keeping the one you have. People like you are the reason a lot of men don't date anymore.

[SnowedIn]

We always want what we dont have.

[Jennz6]

That’s always the way