Is it bad I judged and stopped dating a guy for taking cocaine first time we met but I have a friend with the same habit?

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

He did ask me if it wanted some I said no then he asked how I felt about others taking it I said it’s fine I don’t judge but I knew I wouldn’t take him seriously. okay my defence the girl she was my friend for months before she confinded in me that she takes it when she parties … I feel bad I judged him and treated him badly for it but I’m not judging my friend. For the record I have never taken drugs

[MrOracle]

Is it bad? In my eyes, it's one of the best decisions you could have made.

Imagine the many ways that dating someone who uses coke could go wrong for you. Why would you CHOOSE to bring those things into your life? I'm sure you have some idea of what drug-users are capable of: theft, fraud, cheating, or just putting you in situations that could get you sent to prison, even if you've never actually done anything yourself. Hell, he could even be inviting violence - say, by borrowing money or drugs from dangerous people and then not being able to pay them back.

Even if he is only a casual user today, you don't know how that might escalate tomorrow. Things happen. So you are wise to avoid even putting a toe into that pool.

[MrCommodore]

No, when its a potential boyfriend/partner you're supposed to judge them for compatibility purposes.

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

I guess also my friend I know her character before she told me this so there’s reasons to overlook it but when it’s a guy I’ve just met and been speaking to for a few weeks I don’t really know him so I guess it makes sense I’d pass judgement whereas his friends probably would not as they actually know him

[MrCommodore]

If you want to find the perfect guy and relationship, you need to be very clear early on about what you want. I think you were right

[LuminousMind]

@MrCommodore
Hi, I just wanted to say I really like your advice and would like to ask if you wouldn't mind giving me your opinion on a situation? I'd like if you can follow me back so I can dm you my question!

[MrCommodore]

@LuminousMind sure

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Best to avoid those type of guys anyway. Unless he's a rockstar or the CEO of a large corporation, a cocaine habit won't get him very far in life

[slatyb]

You can have friends that you wouldn't want to date.

[Jamie05rhs]

It's hypocritical, but it's not wrong. You were absolutely right to reject him. He has major issues.

[Anonymous]

Did he ask to snort it out of your cleavage?

[Summeroflove]

That’s good ground for dumping someone.

[Guardian45]

No, no more of THAT SH! T!

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope that's not bad at all you did the right thing

[dinojames22]

Nope. You make the right choice for you and him