Should I just let it go and play dumb? I’m so tired of asking and he doesn’t stop. so I just have to accept it right?

[bbhhgirl]

So my boyfriend had this female friend he met online that’s a stripper and they never had sex but she kissed him and told him he had a big penis after the four week of being with each other after she did that he flew her back home. So when we got together I did go through his phone. I found things I didn’t like he told me that was his friend and that he only flirts with her to keep her sober. I still didn’t like it he told me I was controlling him and that , that is his friend and he should be able to talk to her when and however he wants. He told me he would stop but he lies about it each time.

[Anonymous]

It's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries in your relationship and communicate your concerns with your partner. It's not healthy or sustainable to ignore or suppress your feelings in order to avoid conflict or keep the peace.

If you feel uncomfortable with your boyfriend talking to this female friend, it's important to express this to him and explain why it makes you feel uneasy. It's possible that there may be a misunderstanding or miscommunication that can be resolved through open and honest communication.

However, it's also important to consider whether your boyfriend is willing and able to respect your boundaries and address your concerns. If he continues to lie or withhold information from you, it may be a sign that he is not prioritizing your emotional wellbeing and the trust in your relationship.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what is best for your own emotional health and wellbeing. It may be helpful to seek support from trusted friends or a therapist to help you work through your feelings and make a decision that feels right for you.

[bbhhgirl]

I have tried that already. Is the same thing every time.

[bbhhgirl]

It is so annoying.

[Opinion Owner]

If you have already tried communicating with your boyfriend about your concerns and he continues to lie and disregard your feelings, it may be time to reassess whether this relationship is meeting your needs and values.

It's important to prioritize your own emotional wellbeing and to make choices that are best for you. If your boyfriend's behavior is causing you significant distress and frustration, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend or therapist and consider whether it's time to end the relationship.

Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel respected, valued, and heard. It's okay to set boundaries and make choices that prioritize your own emotional wellbeing, even if it means letting go of a relationship that is no longer serving you.

[Opinion Owner]

Also the part you mentioned about he flirts with her only for her to stay sober, that don’t no damn make sense and never known no such thing… you shouldn’t deal with that, that’s bullshit and nonsense on his part.

[D_Bone_Steak]

See I firmly believe flirting is a form of cheating, I think you should have a problem with it if the flirting is still going on after he agreed to be exclusive with you. Normally though from my experience, a chick will back off when I simply explain I'm taken. I just don't think women push as hard for sexy talk or for something more... that's always the dude. So if it's still going on, you should be looking at your dude like WTF?

[LocoLuna]

There are so many red flags in this I recommend ditching him. He is cheating on you. Example they've never had sex but she knows how big he is. That means she's seen him naked that means they've gotten naked together. He only flirts with her to keep her sober. That's not his responsibility it's hers. That's a red flag. He tells you that you're controlling him. Red flag he's projecting and placing the blame on you instead of taking responsibility. And the fact that he lies to you about stopping and proceeds to continue to cheat on you that is the time you either pack your bags and go find somewhere else to stay or you kick him to the curb and you say uh-uh I deserve better

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend is a fuckboy. He will cheat if he isn't already. Decide if you like that.

[Anonymous]

You two don’t belong together.

[bbhhgirl]

That is not an answer

[Opinion Owner]

Yes it is. First of all he’s full of shit for saying what he said to you. But you going through his phone also is not right. You don’t trust him to begin w. Like I said you two don’t belong together.

[Jerre]

Maybe it’s time to find a new boyfriend