I followed the advice of a counsellor and contacted this guy I know through a mutual friend, to warn him that there might be a scam going on, since I was catfished by a guy pretending to be him, who knows how he spends his money and people seeming to know our history of liking each other but being unable to be together because of his disabling sensory issues from Asperger’s syndrome. He was very rude and ungrateful for the warning. I expected at least a thank you and him to say he’ll look into it. What I got instead was that we’re not friends, we don’t talk anymore. That he doesn’t believe me and he’s going to block me. All I did was try to help. I understand and respect the not wanting to be in touch, but I don’t understand the rudeness or lack of gratitude.
Why was he so rude?
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It's difficult to say why he reacted the way he did without knowing more about the situation and his perspective. However, it's possible that he may have felt defensive or attacked by your warning, especially if he didn't believe that the scam was real or didn't want to discuss sensitive personal issues with you.
It's also possible that he may have been dealing with his own personal issues or stressors that were affecting his behavior towards you. Regardless of the reason, it's important to remember that his behavior is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person.
It's understandable that you feel hurt and confused by his response, and it's okay to take some time to process your emotions and thoughts. If you feel comfortable, you could try reaching out to him again in the future to see if you can have a calm and respectful conversation about what happened and try to clear up any misunderstandings. However, if he continues to be rude or unresponsive, it may be best to respect his wishes and move on from the situation.
Well, last year, he was showing up everywhere where I was and sending me Facebook ‘I love you;’ messages and wedding pictures and of our kids we’d never had. It affected my health, I had a nervous breakdown and ended up in the hospital
I don’t know.. I don’t have good empathy. I have Asperger’s
What do you think his problem is?
It sounds like the situation with this person has been very difficult and traumatic for you. It's important to prioritize your own physical and emotional well-being in this situation.
If this person is continuing to harass or threaten you, it may be necessary to involve law enforcement or seek a restraining order to ensure your safety. It's important to document any messages, emails, or other evidence of their behavior, and to reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional for support.
Remember that you have the right to set boundaries and protect yourself from harmful or abusive behavior. Don't hesitate to seek help and support in navigating this challenging situation.
Do you think he felt defensive, because it was him again?
Is that what it sounds like?
It's possible that the person's defensive and rude behavior was a result of feeling threatened or attacked by the situation. However, as you mentioned, it's important to keep in mind that individuals with Asperger's syndrome may have difficulty with empathy and social communication, which could also contribute to their reactions and behavior.
It's difficult to say for certain what the person's problem or underlying motivations were, as there may have been multiple factors at play. It's important to approach the situation with an open and non-judgmental attitude, and to focus on communication and understanding rather than blame or assumption.
If you are struggling with empathy or social communication due to Asperger's syndrome or other conditions, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor who specializes in working with individuals with autism or related conditions. They can provide guidance and tools for navigating social situations and building relationships, as well as help you understand and manage your own emotions and reactions.
Yeah, he has Asperger’s too. More severely than I do.
Given that this person has Asperger's syndrome, their reaction may be related to their difficulty in processing social cues and interpreting the intent behind your message. People with Asperger's syndrome may have difficulty with social communication, including understanding social rules, interpreting body language and tone of voice, and expressing themselves appropriately in social situations.
It's possible that your message may have been misinterpreted or perceived as threatening or intrusive, leading to the defensive and dismissive response you received. It's important to remember that individuals with Asperger's syndrome may have different communication styles and may require more explicit and direct communication.
While it can be frustrating to receive a negative response, it's important to approach the situation with empathy and understanding. It may be helpful to communicate your intentions clearly and directly, and to try to find a way to communicate that is comfortable and effective for both you and the other person.
If you continue to experience difficulties in communication or feel that your safety and well-being are at risk, it may be helpful to seek support from a counselor or a support group for individuals with Asperger's syndrome and their families and caregivers. They can provide you with guidance and strategies for effective communication and help you navigate the challenges of interacting with someone who has Asperger's syndrome.
Meanwhile today, I got more aliases that seem like they might be his, looking me up on social media. One of a tugboat (his special interest); and an argument portraying me as the aggressor in the discussion. Where it’s being explained to me that it’s dangerous to believe anything blindly and I’m being verbally abusive. Maybe he doesn’t mean to scare and upset me. He’s just clueless. Or maybe he’s just a jerk. I’ll never know.
But obviously, it’s best to avoid him.
It's understandable that you feel scared and upset by the situation, especially if you believe that the person you contacted may be behind the aliases. It's important to prioritize your own safety and well-being in this situation, and to take steps to protect yourself if you feel that you are being harassed or stalked.
One important step you can take is to block the aliases on social media, and to adjust your privacy settings to limit who can view your profile and posts. You may also want to consider reporting the aliases to the social media platform or to the authorities if you believe that they are being used to harass or threaten you.
It's also a good idea to reach out to a trusted friend or family member for support, and to consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor if you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious.
It's important to listen to your instincts and to take action to protect yourself if you feel that you are in danger. It's possible that the person behind the aliases may not have malicious intentions, but it's always better to err on the side of caution and take steps to ensure your safety.
That does sound rude and ungrateful. You did what you could.