Is he asking me out on a date or as friends?

[HappyWoman34]

This guy *Mike* invited me to a weekend lunch with him, after I’d realised I received an invitation to go bowling in a group with him and his friends and apologised, leaving him my number when I realised I’d forgotten to check my emails in time to agree or decline. This is a one on one invitation and he said he doesn’t know whether or not it’s a date. He wants to see what happens. Is that a date? Or not really?

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1 y

It’s really not clear to me.

[Anonymous]

Based on the information provided, it's difficult to determine with certainty whether this lunch invitation is intended as a date or simply as a friendly outing. However, there are a few factors to consider:

Context: Consider the context of your interactions with Mike. Has there been any flirtation or romantic undertones in your conversations or previous outings? Have there been indications that he might be interested in you romantically? If so, it's more likely that the lunch invitation could be intended as a date.

Verbal cues: Pay attention to the specific language and wording he used when inviting you. If he mentioned that he doesn't know whether it's a date and wants to see what happens, it suggests that he might be interested in exploring a romantic connection with you.

Observing his behavior: During the lunch, observe his behavior and the way he interacts with you. Is there a romantic or flirtatious vibe? Does he show signs of genuine interest and attentiveness? These can provide clues about his intentions.

Ultimately, the best way to clarify his intentions is through open communication. If you're comfortable, you can have an honest conversation with him to express your feelings and seek clarity on whether he sees this as a date or a friendly outing.

[HappyWoman34]

Thanks, that’s very helpful. I only just recently got over someone else completely. Now I’m feeling ready to try to feel something for someone else and I’m not clear how to feel or react.

[HappyWoman34]

and I have Asperger’s and I’ve been not dating anyone for 4.5 years.

[HappyWoman34]

Well, what would count as flirtation? Is it always obvious with guys like Ben, who stared, leant close and just were extra nice and attentive like they weren’t with other girls, or else sneaking looks and looking adoringly at you? Or can it sometimes be more subtle than that? If so, how?

[HappyWoman34]

The second one, Alec, a friend

[htmndg183]

Friends i guess.

[Anonymous]

I say friend.