What am I doing wrong? I will speak to them perfectly normal relaxed and they just stand there like statues. One word answers. I am not approaching them. Just normal interactions.
What am I doing wrong? I am easy-going and pleasant.
WARNING: This will not be something that women over 30 want to hear (though they absolutely SHOULD hear it, because it's true). Proceed with caution.
The first thing that comes to mind (and obviously this is speculation at best - I wasn't there so I can't say anything for certain) is that you are pursing guys who, frankly, have much better options, and so they aren't interested in you, and their stonewalling you is so that their behavior doesn't suggest anything that might imply that they are interested in you.
I say this because the other likely answer - that they're just incredibly shy - might be true on occasion, but certainly not often, as shy people mostly stay at home and rarely socialize.
Again, I wasn't there, I didn't see who you talked to, etc., but it's become very common that women believe that "they get better as they get older" and that their education, degrees, careers, and income are things that men value, and thus improves a woman's value. Those things, in the eyes of men, are false.
When men are young, except for the lucky few who are exceptionally good-looking and/or wealthy and high-status, men have very low value. Men have to build their own value from nothing, and if they don't do that exceptionally well, they have little chance of attracting a woman. Even men who are good at it usually don't have much in the way of resources or status until their late 20s or early 30s. Men in their teens and early 20s are virtually worthless to women, and they are treated as such.
Women start their adult lives at the top of the scale, having youth, fertility, purity, a lack of baggage, and they haven't already experienced everything. Their value is so high because men value these characteristics incredibly highly. Women start at the top (as a teen), and their challenge is to MAINTAIN their status, rather than building it like men do. Obviously youth and fertility are lost with time no matter what, so the biological clock is a real issue, but she has control over her body count and baggage.
As men get into their 30s and 40s, they are finally starting to hit their peak value, after decades of having very little value. Meanwhile, women's market value peaks at around 22 and is falling fast at 28, and crosses over with men's rising value (again, on average) at 30.
The problem is that a lot of women think that their value is still rising in their 30s and 40s, perhaps because their career status and income are still rising, but those are NOT things men value - those are things that WOMEN value in MEN, but attraction between men and women is NOT symmetrical.
This doesn't mean that an older woman can't find a man, but she's not going to be able to get the high-status men that they want, just like your average 22 year old guy isn't going to land a supermodel. You might not like to hear this, but if you are going after men who have high status, and you're in your listed age range, you're probably shopping above your price range. If you mention your education or your career or your income, you might as well be telling a man about your STDs - little turns a man off faster.
If you want to attract a man, you need to be bringing as little baggage as possible, and you need to be focusing on the things that you can still bring to a relationship that men value: femininity, being fit (i. e., not significantly overweight), friendly, cooperative, and peaceful. That's what will interest men.
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